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Is it truly possible to have genuinely loved a spouse you've cheated on the entirety of your marriage?

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Miram · 31-35, F
I say it's possible because humans are flawed, they aren't as perfect as their ideals and they are not as great as the greatness of love. They can ignore it but it s there. They have to grow to contain all of it and live up to the responsibility.

It's there, just not in the amount needed to feel literally unable to cheat, or even empathetic enough to truly relate to the consequences.

And does that worth dedicating your life to? Not to me. I think not being great enough to contain love is why we feel incomplete and always seek to complete us in other people. Cheating is just one form of that.
indyjoe · 56-60, M
@Miram Yes, we are only human...we have thoughts, desires, feelings, and we can even be tempted and there is nothing at all wrong with that. It's what we do with those that make it right or wrong. Cheating can be resisted and if it isn't there is no excuse.
Miram · 31-35, F
@indyjoe

I hope you're not insinuating that I am giving excuses for cheaters OR saying they can't resist it. I have been cheated on, lied to, betrayed and not just in relationships.

And though I have to yet do it back to people, I can understand their side- to a degree and the last paragraph of mine is a part of that.

There was love in them I believe but it doesn't take the lead.
indyjoe · 56-60, M
@Miram I wasn't insinuating anything...I was agreeing with you while also stating my own stand on it.