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Why is dating so hard?

All I want to do is find a nice lovely lady, go on dates with her, be a real honest gentleman, sounds perfect right? But it seems it's a battlefield. I feel I mess up like all the time. I feel so stupid at times.
LadyGrace · 70-79
I don't feel stupid, and you're not stupid. The rest I can ditto.
Hold your head up high, don't beat yourself up... Your human. Confidence is attractive, that's pretty much all you need to know.
Don't get too attached to the first person that things go well with either, just live your life
you can use the principle from Sun Tzu : know yourself and know your enemy, you can win hundreds of battle
Deepbreath · 46-50, M
@YukikoAmagi I do know myself but how do I know the enemy when I don't date? I chat online, chat on phone, get told "I'm funny and love to date." Then they go all quiet. Then they block me. I never understand it.
@Deepbreath Talk. Talk a lot as friend before dating. And don't focus on yourself when talking, focus on knowing your target, ask her many things until you get enough information. Don't talk about i like this, i like that.. but focus on what do you like? what you don't like?

after you know a lot about her and know your capacity, then start your move trying to date her
Deepbreath · 46-50, M
@YukikoAmagi thanks for good advice. I never talk about me and I get asked questions about me and I ask different questions and sometimes I ask the same questions back too.

I generally get on well with the opposite side of attraction I hVe been known as a setup of cat fish, being used in some way. But the genuine kind of female do block me when I got no idea why, I think they may have found someone better. Or they may not like me because of my health. I can't decide on that.
FreeOrchid · 36-40, F
Its a challenge not a battlefield. Haven't met a real gentleman yet but I am hoping they are real. *says the woman that hasn't dated in a year....
Deepbreath · 46-50, M
@FreeOrchid I'm an old fashioned type so I am a real gentleman and I do respect and I really listen to the female.
Mbingh01 · 61-69, F
Seems like to me that men don’t want to date. They just want to have sex.....period.
Deepbreath · 46-50, M
@Mbingh01 I'm not like that and I think perhaps some are offended by that.
LadyGrace · 70-79
@Mbingh01 BINGO!!!
LadyGrace · 70-79
@Deepbreath Offended???? Then they have their priorities wrong. I feel all the gentlemen are gone.
SW-User
There's no such thing as dating in the 21st century
Deepbreath · 46-50, M
@SW-User what do you call it in 21st century?
MissLlyn · 26-30, F
@Deepbreath hook ups I guess
When you meet the right person, it's effortless.
Deepbreath · 46-50, M
@GreenGoddess I feel that be never as Inot yet found the right person. I think I was born to not be loved.
Tatsumi · 31-35, M
It is a battlefield. And in a war, mistakes are made all the time. All that matters is you win or lose. Err, and obey the Geneva convention.
Deepbreath · 46-50, M
@Tatsumi it be nice to find someone to actually go on a date.
How can i meet my husband if i have no intention to date
User41 · 36-40, M
Maybe your not a lovable person
Deepbreath · 46-50, M
@User41 maybe you're right
REMsleep · 41-45, F
Well, I've never had effortless as GreenGoddess suggested and I've been around for a bit, but we are all human and see the world through the eyes of different experience. We all mess up but you can find a lady who is willing to work with you and you with her.
Fukfacewillie · 56-60, M
Do u say odd things?
Fukfacewillie · 56-60, M
Cmon out with it...who r these women @Deepbreath
Deepbreath · 46-50, M
@Fukfacewillie not saying but no one on here. Confidentiality is still in tact I never disclose
Fukfacewillie · 56-60, M
Not literally. Jesus @Deepbreath

 
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