Why is dating so hard?

All I want to do is find a nice lovely lady, go on dates with her, be a real honest gentleman, sounds perfect right? But it seems it's a battlefield. I feel I mess up like all the time. I feel so stupid at times.

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YukikoAmagi

you can use the principle from Sun Tzu : know yourself and know your enemy, you can win hundreds of battle

Deepbreath · 46-50, M

@YukikoAmagi I do know myself but how do I know the enemy when I don't date? I chat online, chat on phone, get told "I'm funny and love to date." Then they go all quiet. Then they block me. I never understand it.

YukikoAmagi

@Deepbreath Talk. Talk a lot as friend before dating. And don't focus on yourself when talking, focus on knowing your target, ask her many things until you get enough information. Don't talk about i like this, i like that.. but focus on what do you like? what you don't like?

after you know a lot about her and know your capacity, then start your move trying to date her

Deepbreath · 46-50, M

@YukikoAmagi thanks for good advice. I never talk about me and I get asked questions about me and I ask different questions and sometimes I ask the same questions back too.

I generally get on well with the opposite side of attraction I hVe been known as a setup of cat fish, being used in some way. But the genuine kind of female do block me when I got no idea why, I think they may have found someone better. Or they may not like me because of my health. I can't decide on that.