I'm going to tell my bf about my trauma, but I don't know how or when?

I’m always more open and feel comfortable at night. I told my boyfriend a trauma I had on a long car ride at night back home. He was driving and it was dark so I was able to sorta hide my nerves and feel more comfortable knowing he can’t see me. I didn’t tell him until maybe a year later into dating. There’s no rush

I was in the same position 30 years ago. We were sitting on the couch and I told th I him that I had something in the past that I needed to tell him. He held my hand and listened. I was nervous, by I felt so much better when it was over. I cried on his shoulder as he held me close.

Don't, just now. Don't. You didn't for good reasons. I've been there and done that... If you're following my pattern, it's to submarine the relationship and kill it because you think it's dead already. Get a real intimate second opinion... Therapy maybe or a trusted friend. Someone your trust that knows already. Sure, you tell him sometime... If you honestly can't envision a positive outcome, you're probably not doing it for the "right" right reason. Yes, I know that makes a sense of sorts.

Plan it out. Tell him you need a night of no interruptions he can think it’s a date so he’s not worried going up to it then tell him. It’s hard and scary but then then the secrets out of the way and your relationship can grow even deeper

You need a quiet place and some time. He’ll have questions. Go slow and confide in him, don’t rush and let it all tumble out, he needs time to listen and process.

Sooner means less time worrying and honest conversations usually go much better than your fears.