Lately the relationship has been kinda rocky and it all blew up and he called me racist ... resulting in many hurt feelings as he did not realize how offensive that was to me, especially when only said out of spite .
Honestly, if race is an issue in y'all's relationship, just stop dating now, because it's honestly the most dumb issue to have with someone you're supposed to love.
I am not sure you can come back from that. Honestly. I would not be able to. Especially if it was said out of spite. That says a lot about him, in my opinion.
I would also feel fucking sick if my SO of another race truly thought I had done or said something they could consider racist.
I can tell you are hurt by what he said but all relationships need work especially young relationships. If your relationship is rocky on a regular basis though and he's only saying things out of spite it might not be a good relationship for you.Sometimes we got to move on even when our heart doesn't want to I wish I'd realized that years before I did in my first marriage. We shouldn't stay where we are not happy.
I'd be REALLY pissed. That's just wrong. Dump his ass. Doing anything out of spite in a relationship shows just how thoughtless and selfish someone is.