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Fell in Love with a soldier from another country. Anyone else experienced this?

I was on Tinder one day and matched with this guy from the army. He's from the US, I'm from Latvia. So first it was all fun and games, I was bored so I decided, why not? We started talking and then sh*t hit the fan. We started sending each other voice memos and pictures and texting all the time. I got attached to him. It seemed like we were perfect for each other, I know it sounds stupid, but I felt like that. He's everything I want in a person. He promised that we will meet. And then couple of days ago he texts me that he will be in Riga, I couldn't believe it, I was so excited, I couldn't believe that I would get to see him. Next day comes around, we're both excited and then he sends me a text from some guy that is in charge telling him to pack his bags and they are going to Lithuania. I knew that a relationship with him was impossible, zero chance but I hoped to see him at least once and at least get to hug him and touch him, that's all I ever wanted. That got taken away, I was crushed. I cried like a beluga whale the whole day. I know it's partly my fault because I should have known better and known that it's not possible, then things escalated so quickly.
Has anyone else had a similar experience?
Mugin16 · 46-50, M
Why cannot you simply travel to Lithuania? The Baltic Republics are rather tiny in geographical terms and you Balts are on good terms with each other, not? What is stopping you to travel to him or him to travel back to Latvia?
Mugin16 · 46-50, M
@huntermeadows: You wrote "you got attached to him". Did he get attached to you too? That happens to women normally quicker than to men.
huntermeadows · 31-35, F
@Mugin16: you never know but i think he did, he said he wouldn't be so in depth and honest with me if he didn't like me...
Mugin16 · 46-50, M
@huntermeadows: That's of course easy said especially online. But you know that.
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I've never been comittal enough with people online to face serious devastation if things didn't work out. I more of experience them for fun and because we can both fulfill each other's needs more or less, but not because I think we're in the truest love possible or something. I'll always take things lightly enough until I actually do meet them, then things can start to matter on a deeper level.
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Booyeah · 41-45, M
Sorry to hear that. Having served 15 years in the Army myself, I know it can be a pain in the ass to work things out over distance.
huntermeadows · 31-35, F
It's really hard, for both parties. I know you guys need love too but in the end it's really painful if you fall for someone.
aw, I feel you :( i also cried for someone online. :c but I know if you two are really destined to each other, love will always find a way! :)
huntermeadows · 31-35, F
Aw, thank you for understanding me :)
Mugin16 · 46-50, M
Sorry to hear that. But as you said you knew that the relationship was impossible. You will get over it eventually.

PS I love your reference to a the beluga whale! But do they really cry that much? Or did you made that up? :-)
Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
So that's the end of it? Whatever stopped you from trying again, it shouldn't.
huntermeadows · 31-35, F
It shouldn't, I know but if it continues it would just get more painful. I think
Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
Perhaps. I still believe in love and I wish others would too
MrPeterPanda · 26-30, M
that's the reason why you shouldn't fell for someone online
huntermeadows · 31-35, F
I know, but it happened
MrPeterPanda · 26-30, M
@huntermeadows: I am not in position to suggest you as such I have never had this experience before. But according to me you said "I knew that a relationship with him was impossible, zero chance but I hoped to see him at least once and at least get to hug him and touch him, that's all I ever wanted" I think it's more of spontaneous reaction.

Ask him his views, and make a firm judgement based upon that.

 
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