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If you had lots of money and were single, would you be careful about getting into a relationship based on this?

I know a guy (one of my clients) who is single and owns multiple businesses and makes loads of money, but he is weary of getting into a relationship because of the amount of assets and cash he has built up for himself.
Harriet03 · 41-45, F
He said he wanted to come into money, I bought a gold diaphragm! 🤷‍♀️
MissTaken · 36-40, F
@Harriet03 Definately gets my vote for Best Answer 😂😂
Harriet03 · 41-45, F
@MissTaken lol ✌
QuixoticSoul · 41-45, M
I dunno, spending your life alone with your toys for company seems fucking boring.
BlueMetalChick · 26-30, F
@QuixoticSoul That's why you have friends and family. People you actually care about. Lovers are worthless.
iMystery · M
@QuixoticSoul He spends most of his time working on his businesses actually. He is not into "boy toys" so to speak...

Besides the wealth, he also says he just does not have the time for a relationship as he is only focused on his work and he has no time for a woman nagging him about not spending enough time with her etc, as he travels a lot too.
DrSunnyTheSkeptic · 26-30, M
A good tactic is to hide your wealth, just look normal and say nothing about that. This way you'll avoid a lot of gold diggers.
DrSunnyTheSkeptic · 26-30, M
@BlueMetalChick It's more of need than want. I keep telling myself I pursue the dentist career because it's what I want but I also know that part of the reason is that it also pays well enough.
iMystery · M
@DrSunnyTheSkeptic He actually has one house which looks like crap lol... He also uses that house as a warehouse for tools and documents and if he has a discrete meeting he takes the girls to that house hahaha...

He has another place where he actually lives and only very few people know where it is and that place is impressive.
DrSunnyTheSkeptic · 26-30, M
@iMystery I'd probably do something similar. Filter out the people who want to take advantage
plinkplonk · F
Life isn't worth living without love.

I think your "client" (hopefully you do his taxes) is using his finances as a convenient excuse.
BlueMetalChick · 26-30, F
@plinkplonk I concur. I used to debate club in high school and was considered a star. The only trouble is that it's difficult to be good at arguing without seeming cringy.
plinkplonk · F
@BlueMetalChick

There is nothing "cringy" about being a well mannered, well informed, skillfully executed debater. That's a talent many people lack.

There are a subset of individuals who are sensitive and find the act of sharing ideas to be "hostile" -- they tend to have less flexible minds. It's not you, it's them.
BlueMetalChick · 26-30, F
@plinkplonk I know, I agree. I mostly meant internet neckbeards who brag about how they "destroy" people in arguments 😂
SW-User
If he doesn’t brag about his money to girls and keeps a normal lifestyle, he should be able to find a nice girl and not a gold digger
SW-User
Yeah I used to find such people to be odd but then I saw the number of gold diggers around 🤣
Miram · 31-35, F
It is just money.
iMystery · M
@Miram For him that attitude can prove to be expensive lol
Miram · 31-35, F
@iMystery There are more important things to be worried about in life. Things that can't be gained back no matter how much money you have, and no matter how young you are and how smart you prove yourself to be.

Just being in a relationship has no irreversible impact on his assets. Unless he is into people who like to steal and burn houses to the ground. Which are a minority, people are generally good. Stupid but good.

This silly fear is common in higher circles. Not that they can't find partners of the same financial successes. It's that humans need problems even self created.
iMystery · M
@Miram Its not just the money...

He also doesn't want to deal with a partner who is going to complain about him not spending enough time with her and he wants to preserve his freedom... Not having to answer or be questioned by her when he wants to do certain things or go anywhere.

His freedom and businesses always comes first to him.
Gangstress · 41-45, F
Dont know. My brother was gonna get his wife to do a pre nup. He thinks shes after his money.my question is. Why the fuck did you get married?!
Gangstress · 41-45, F
@SW-User but she is! Lol. Someone has to look after the kids. He sure aint gonna do it. Glitter earns considerably more than me. We would never lord money over each other. Its about the love.if it was about money id be at home sponging off my parents!
SW-User
I agree with you @Gangstress
Gangstress · 41-45, F
@SW-User 😋
I wouldn't be any more careful than I already am. The money wouldn't be an issue until it came time to get married. There are ways to make sure you don't lose everything to a gold digging spouse.
iMystery · M
@SooperSarah The money is one thing... The other issue he has is not having time or wanting to deal with a partner who is going to nag him about not spending enough time with her because his businesses always comes first and he travels often.
@iMystery Another easy fix. If he's [i]that[/i] successful he can hire help.
BlueMetalChick · 26-30, F
This sounds exactly like my entire attitude right now. I'm not rich or anything, but I have what I would consider to be a lot of money, and I am single.
SW-User
Of course.
It's all going to be set up in trust funds to begin with.
I'd be weary.
iMystery · M
@SW-User I was kinda expecting that kinda response from you lol
SW-User
@iMystery 😅
hlpflwthat · M
Or at least that's his excuse 😏

I would be [b]very[/b] careful around anyone who'd choose their assets over a relationship.
iMystery · M
@TexChik Wealth is not the only issue.. He also doesnt want someone who is gonnanag him about not spending enough time with her because his businesses always comes first and he travels a lot and he does not want to give up any of his freedom he currently has.
TexChik · F
@iMystery then he is a fool for wanting to get married. It’s guaranteed to end poorly. He would be better off with high class hookers
iMystery · M
@TexChik Same thing I told home hahaha
Wraithorn · 51-55, M
It would be wise to be careful I think.
iMystery · M
@Wraithorn Agreed
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I'd live as a bum for that first year
iMystery · M
@RuiterInSwart He actually has one house which looks like crap lol... He also uses that house as a warehouse for tools and documents and if he has a discrete meeting he takes the girls to that house hahaha...

He has another place where he actually lives and only very few people know where it is and that place is impressive.
SW-User
Pretend to be poor
iMystery · M
@SW-User He actually has one house which looks like crap lol... He also uses that house as a warehouse for tools and documents and if he has a discrete meeting he takes the girls to that house hahaha...

He has another place where he actually lives and only very few people know where it is and that place is impressive.
Ironic. A lot of people want money so they can win a partner - but when they get the money they're afraid a partner will take some of it away.
@DrSunnyTheSkeptic If you think about some of the breakups you've witnessed (or experienced), the only reason a lot of people don't try to take their partner's money is because the partner doesn't have any. If they do, that's a good way to make them miserable in still another dimension.
DrSunnyTheSkeptic · 26-30, M
@Mamapolo2016 I get it people are fearful. Then they made the prenup but you get puppy dog eyes and a "...you don't trust me? I thought you loved me?"
iMystery · M
@Mamapolo2016 yeah that too is a major concern for him.
Huh? He sounds very vulnerable to pussy. But thats OK. It happens. He can always make more money.
Harriet03 · 41-45, F
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BlueMetalChick · 26-30, F
@Harriet03 That old school hairdo
Harriet03 · 41-45, F
@BlueMetalChick My all time girl crush!!
Bruja · F
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UndeadPrivateer · 31-35, M
I'd just be quick with them prenups. 👌
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My BIL is like this, but then he is also a dickhead.

Love and marriage are a leap of faith you need to take.
iMystery · M
@InOtterWords Faith... Lawyers would differ lol.
Unquestioned · 70-79, M
I don't want a relationship. I'm happy to travel the world on my own.
iMystery · M
@Unquestioned ALMOST his view as well

 
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