How do you deal with a passive aggressive roommate?

My roommate and I have been friends/roommates for a while now. I got a boyfriend about six months ago and she’s still single. Ever since it feels like she’s jealous and I sometimes feel like I’m walking on eggshells around her and that she doesn’t like my boyfriend coming around all the time. Haven’t figured out how to balance the friendship and the relationship in my life. Any suggestions?

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OpenlyHonestly · 31-35, F

Of course she doesn't like your boyfriend coming around [b]all the time[/b]. She wants some privacy too. Be honest, if you were in her situation, would you like it?

RedHotCrazyPerson · 31-35, F

@OpenlyHonestly I might not like it but I’d try to understand that my friend/roommate is in a relationship and that takes maintenance too

diablesse · 56-60, F

Maybe try to arrange a few double dates with your boyfriend's mates or to include her more in your activities. She might be feeling like she's intruding you on you guys and it's never nice to feel like an intruder in your own home.

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RedHotCrazyPerson · 31-35, F

@diablesse good idea but I don’t know any guys. The only guy friend I have is not someone she’s interested in (my artist friend that’s way older than us).

diablesse · 56-60, F

Maybe someone from work that you think she might like?

RedHotCrazyPerson · 31-35, F

@diablesse lol I appreciate your brainstorming with me but we currently only have three guys in my job and two are married and one I’ve never talked to....I work in a female dominant field

purplepen · 51-55, F

Maybe go out with the guy or hang out at his place more.

RedHotCrazyPerson · 31-35, F

we go out sometimes but it becomes expensive to go out all the time. Right now he lives at his dad’s not ideal for hanging out

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

Hook her up.

RedHotCrazyPerson · 31-35, F

@MarkPaul I’ve tried to...didn’t work out. And unfortunately most of his friends are in relationships or another city

tallpowerhouseblonde · 31-35, F

Option one is to diplomatically ask her if she has an issue with you having your boyfriend visiting you.

Option two is to ask her to make herself scarce so you can have sex with your boyfriend.

RedHotCrazyPerson · 31-35, F

@tallpowerhouseblonde yeah that’s true- only problem is if she says she has a problem with him being around/visiting then that will put strain on my relationship or we’ll have to figure out other ways to hang out which sounds like a headache

Tatsumi · 31-35, M

Like this:

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I have a real issue with that, too. I tend to respond with active aggression. Which does not end well. Trying to adhere to Downy's master strategy.