Feeling terrible again after a year. What should I do?

Ex boyfriend started a smear campaign after I broke up with him because he was treating me badly - to see if he would change. He spread nasty rumors about me to people I don’t even know. A year has past by and I still feel like a stranger in my own town. I went into a shop today, not realizing that it was owned by one of my ex’s friends. As soon as I starting looking at the clothes I started to feel so uncomfortable, the sales people were looking at me so badly basically letting me know I was unwelcome (like the scene in pretty woman). I felt so uncomfortable and sad. I don’t know what to do anymore but it’s getting hard to bare

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LadyGrace

Mine did the same. The only thing to do is go on, and move on. I feel if people don’t know me for the person I am, they don’t matter. I know, and that’s all that matters. If they are not talking about me, they’re talking about someone else. I don’t want to be around those type people who judge. It hurts, but there’s really nothing that can be done. But this guy won’t give up. He continues to smear me to this day. I’ve done nothing wrong whatsoever to deserve it. He’ll have to answer before God one day, is all I can say.

CrazyLevan · 31-35, M

1. Society is fickle minded. They will only listen to one part of the story and stick to it. You know the truth, they don't. Ignore them.

2. If somebody denies you service or purposefully berates you in a store or a shop, get a complaint book and lodge a complaint. Employees cannot send you out based on personal opinion. Remember to stay calm and composed throughout. Don't get emotional or abusive.

3. If you get hate mails/letters, take up the matter with the police.

destinyfabulous · 36-40, F

Do u have a family member who lives elsewhere that u can't go by a rebuild from there? Ur ex is an asshole by the way.

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destinyfabulous · 36-40, F

@Sensitiveheart that's OK...ur a warrior...put on ur armor and go out and do ur thing....make friends... Talk to ppl... Focus on doing good at work...and anytime u feel down u can buzz me on sw... I'll try to keep my phone on me at all times. I can't believe that bastard would do that to you.

Sensitiveheart · 31-35, F

Thank you so much for your kind words, it already helped me a lot. Thank you for letting me vent. Some people think I might be overacting but after a year of being isolated and targeted it can get hard sometimes. @destinyfabulous

destinyfabulous · 36-40, F

@Sensitiveheart don't brush away ur feelings...hurt changes u....go tru the hurt...right tru it... And the next r me rumors spread.... U wouldn't even care. In the meantime I'm here for u.

SW-User

Move out. People are toxic. And of course the man is always "innocent". Even if he sleeps with a different woman every night. People trust stupid mansluts. Cuz they're all stupid. Move out of this stupid small brained town.

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

Why on earth are you letting this man have any control over your life ?
He only has the power you give him.
Live your life.

destinyfabulous · 36-40, F

@Picklebobble2 she has to live her life....however that a tough situation to have to deal with. Isolation and hate hurts

Sensitiveheart · 31-35, F

Exactly! I completely try to ignore but seeing as it is still happening after a year I can’t deny it hurts seeing I was in love with the man

destinyfabulous · 36-40, F

@Sensitiveheart U can get over a broken heart...try not to contact him at all...no pics nothing... No fb stalking too. It will be hard at first but eventually ull not feel the love for him anymore. Focus on other activities to keep busy. Talk to ur friends.

As for the hateful ppl...keep a smiling and joyful confident disposition... Ppl tend tobforgot rumors...especially if u act contrary to it.

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