Hi guys I need your help. What would you do? Basically long story short I have been with my...

StokedFox · 36-40, F

I hate to say this, but at his age he's probably not going to want to deal with a little kid and he probably told you he would to make you happy at some point. If you really want a kid, just let him go and have a kid on your own. I'm a single mom and I love it. I won't date because I don't have time or energy to give to another person. Or just stay with him and be miserable. Choice is always yours.

JellOFromHellO · 36-40, M

I think before you do either of those things, you should really look into why you want a child right now. You said "you've been broody" recently, and want to try for a child.

Maybe, it would be best to see a therapist or something, and discuss why you feel you need to be a mother now, if you haven't felt that before.

If it is due to nothing particular, and is a natural urge that will keep getting stronger, then you at least know which decision will make sense for you. If it is a need you feel now because of other subconscious reasons, and not really because you actually want to have and raise a child (that's a possibility)... then finding that out might also help you make your decision more easily.

Either way, I think it would be wise to look into that more, before you make a relationship choice. And knowing whatever the truth is, will make your path more clearer, I feel.

Mamapolo2016 · F

You’re 26. There’s no cause to panic. I think the first issue you should address is how strong is your attachment to your partner and how strong is your desire for children? If you decide to stay with him and forgo kids, it’s important that YOU make that decision, or you may one day resent him bitterly.

Conversely, if you leave him and have a child, in most motherhoods there comes the occasional moment when having kids seems the dumbest thing one has ever done. You don’t want to resent an innocent child for causing you to lose your true love.

I’d take a few deep breaths and start there. Good luck!

fazer1k · 56-60, M

Perhaps you could discuss the issue further and find out why your partner is now saying he doesn't want children. There may be something you could agree that would alleviate any concerns he has. If he flatly refuses to have children with you I guess you are faced with making the horrible choice of whether your current partner means more to you than having children. If you decide having children is more important then you should probably move away from the relationship quickly rather than drag it on any longer.

Blepboopity

Our choice to love is subjective.

Both ways it's heartbreaking. But don't suppress your desires. They will drive you apart.

Look for someone who wants a family.

You will never feel whole if you suppress the desire of having a baby.

Or you can consider the cons of having a baby but still move on and make your decision.

Seems like you need a break.

alan20 · M

Serious dialogue is all I can suggest. If he can't at least understand your needs I'm afraid there's a problem in your relationship anyway. It might be worth continually asking yourself - in the long term which am I going to regret more : losing him or the chance of kids.

nevergiveup · M

its a hard thing to decide. If you dont have any children with him later on in life you could regret it and resent him. If you leave him you may have a happy life with children and feel complete. I wont say what i think as its your life and you must do what you feel is right. Good luck

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

If you're clearly not on the same page with regard to starting a family, times up.
You're at different stages in life.
Timing is everything.

SW-User

Give it a little bit of time first..... mainly too see if he re-changes his mind and feelings on the matter

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

What I would do is not what you even might do. My values are not yours. Nor vica versa.

Miram · 31-35, F

I go for what I want most.

abdn78 · 41-45, M

need to figure out which is more important. Then you can make a clear decision. Hope it goes well for you.

JP1119 · 36-40, M

Tell him you want one or more kids, see if you can work something out.

Experienced33 · M

carry a tape recorder...lol

SW-User

You both sound so fickle lmao

Justenjoyit · 61-69, M

Dont worry to much you still have time, and you can decide weather or not you have a baby 😊r not. I was dead agaist children,I ended up with three 😆 thankfully