Hi guys I need your help. What would you do?

Basically long story short I have been with my partner over a year, I'm 26 and he's 37. He has a teenage daughter already and I have no children. When we first got together he told me he would like to have more kids at some point in the future, but recently I bought the topic up again and he told me he has no intention of having any more children and doesn't remember saying otherwise.

Now I'm in a really difficult situation as I have never been bothered about having children before, but since I've been with him all of a sudden I've got really broody and can't stop thinking about trying for a baby. I basically have 2 choices, either stay with the man I love and deal with the fact I likely won't have a family of my own, or leave and try and find another man to father my children. I don't want to do this as I don't want to panic and settle for someone who isn't right just because I want children.

What would you do?

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Mamapolo2016 · F

You’re 26. There’s no cause to panic. I think the first issue you should address is how strong is your attachment to your partner and how strong is your desire for children? If you decide to stay with him and forgo kids, it’s important that YOU make that decision, or you may one day resent him bitterly.

Conversely, if you leave him and have a child, in most motherhoods there comes the occasional moment when having kids seems the dumbest thing one has ever done. You don’t want to resent an innocent child for causing you to lose your true love.

I’d take a few deep breaths and start there. Good luck!

AliceMortem · 31-35, F

@Mamapolo2016 I also run the risk of things not working out for us and then hating him for taking my chance to be a mother.

It's such a tough decision

Mamapolo2016 · F

@AliceMortem It is. I don’t envy you. Because you ARE young it’s something to be seriously considered. You have far too many years ahead of you to be miserable.

AliceMortem · 31-35, F

@Mamapolo2016 this is true. Friends have been telling me "you're still young, see how it goes" but the longer I stay with him the older I'm getting with no children. I think maybe it was a bit much bringing it up after we've only been together a relatively short time but I needed to know for the sake of my future