Hi guys I need your help. What would you do?

Basically long story short I have been with my partner over a year, I'm 26 and he's 37. He has a teenage daughter already and I have no children. When we first got together he told me he would like to have more kids at some point in the future, but recently I bought the topic up again and he told me he has no intention of having any more children and doesn't remember saying otherwise.

Now I'm in a really difficult situation as I have never been bothered about having children before, but since I've been with him all of a sudden I've got really broody and can't stop thinking about trying for a baby. I basically have 2 choices, either stay with the man I love and deal with the fact I likely won't have a family of my own, or leave and try and find another man to father my children. I don't want to do this as I don't want to panic and settle for someone who isn't right just because I want children.

What would you do?

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JellOFromHellO · 36-40, M

I think before you do either of those things, you should really look into why you want a child right now. You said "you've been broody" recently, and want to try for a child.

Maybe, it would be best to see a therapist or something, and discuss why you feel you need to be a mother now, if you haven't felt that before.

If it is due to nothing particular, and is a natural urge that will keep getting stronger, then you at least know which decision will make sense for you. If it is a need you feel now because of other subconscious reasons, and not really because you actually want to have and raise a child (that's a possibility)... then finding that out might also help you make your decision more easily.

Either way, I think it would be wise to look into that more, before you make a relationship choice. And knowing whatever the truth is, will make your path more clearer, I feel.

AliceMortem · 31-35, F

@JellOFromHellO I guess it's because I've never felt so strongly for someone before. We are on the same page about everything other than this unfortunately