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Is it a bad sign if you don't have textual chemistry?

I started dating this guy. We do not have great textual (convo via text messages) chemistry, but we get along just fine f2f and sexually. He's 13 years my senior and divorced. We also have a very mild language barrier (he's Russian). Thoughts?

ALSO: He's opening up at a very slow pace-- which is expected. And he's not too fond of showing affection, but he's actually trying to so better if any of this matters.
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no interact face to face instead
SoftServe · 26-30, M
Don't worry about it. One of my friends from college doesn't speak good English so he doesn't text but I know if I called him he would be on first plane here.
Fernie · F
textual chemistry???? That's it...society is circling the drain
thepixiestixs · 26-30, F
@Fernie I didn't think it actually existed until I was surfing the web. Honestly, it shouldn't have that much weight in a relationship. I believe IRL/f2f chemistry is MUCH more important.
Fernie · F
@thepixiestixs about 90%+ of human communication is through body language, eye contact and voice inflection. It's no wonder why your generation and the ones coming up have questionable social skills and very weak coping skills (not directing this at you but you ARE caught up in it). Gone are the days when strangers smiled at each other and said "Good Morning" etc. Across the board now all we see are the tops of people's heads...it's very disturbing to know who will be running things soon. Where will the humanity be??
Butterflykisses24 · 51-55, F
talk to him on the phone instead of texting him
Adogslife · 61-69, M
Russians are stubborn. Do you know why he got divorced?
Adogslife · 61-69, M
@thepixiestixs is there a reason you're looking for such a huge project? You're going to expend a lot of energy on someone that's already lost a marriage over his stubbornness, inability to communicate and being an affection abyss.

That's my guess. But I'm not a big fan tbh.
thepixiestixs · 26-30, F
@Adogslife I respect your opinion. However, there's 3 sides to every story and to say he's stubborn because of his nationality is sorta far fetch IMO. I have seen changes in him since we started dating. Things are still fresh, therefore, I cannot argue that his behavior/attitude/actions are mundane when it's evident that he is trying. But again, I do appreciate and respect your opinion. Everyone you're looking to invite in your life--and vice versa--is a project. Consider this an interview.
Adogslife · 61-69, M
@thepixiestixs youth is a wonderful thing.
Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F
don't worry I am way better through skype, on the phone or in person.
texting I am not so smooth with conversation
thepixiestixs · 26-30, F
@Mrsbetweenfatandfit Same boat lol. It's weird a lot of individuals are opposed to talking on the phone for some reason.
SoftServe · 26-30, M
@thepixiestixs yes I know some that never answer the phone but if you text they answer right away. It's weird
Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F
@thepixiestixs I think it became more common to text so now some have an anxiety with phone calls. But I prefer it the conversation flows

 
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