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Healing after betrayal

Things were starting to feel more comfortable after a year the betrayal happened but now he just texted a girl and deleted the messages. I feel like I’m back at step one again. How long will it take to heal from betrayal?

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SW-User

You cannot heal in the same environment that broke you. This will end up being a continuous cycle for the rest of your life if you stay in this situation, and every time you confront him he will just get better and better at hiding things. A relationship without respect and trust is not worth the heartbreak and damage it will cause to you long term.

Fairydust · F

@SW-User 💯 this.

Fifidog · 26-30, F

@SW-User I get that. That’s true. Why does it gotta be so hard

eMortal · M

Some people can’t never be ok with one partner. It’s almost a compulsion to look for something else even when things are great within the current relationship. Now you know. The next decision is yours.

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eMortal · M

@Fifidog Early childhood greedy habit that never got fixed, maybe.

Fifidog · 26-30, F

Can it get fixed in adulthood or are they just like that now @eMortal

eMortal · M

@Fifidog Therapy maybe. But no one goes to therapy for that

SW-User

A better question to ask is what else is he doing other than texting? If you already know the answer is much more then you will never trust him and never heal. It's time to leave. If it's just texting then what are you so threatened by?

Fifidog · 26-30, F

@SW-User would you consider sexting cheating?

rrraksamam · 31-35, M

Why's he doing that?
Why can't you be enough for him?
What are you lacking?
What is he getting from conversations with other girls?

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Fifidog · 26-30, F

@rrraksamam is my paranoia normal? How can I heal it

rrraksamam · 31-35, M

@Fifidog I'm not sure anymore. Wish I could tell you.

Menetics · 26-30, F

I was in a similar situation. It’ll just drain you and leave you numb the longer you stay with him. Respect yourself and leave. He will never change but will be better at keeping things from you.

Fifidog · 26-30, F

@Menetics when you stop caring is it that your really don’t care or is it that you become numb?

WhatLifeIsFor · 41-45, M

you will not heal ... find some one else.

Fifidog · 26-30, F

How do I move on @WhatLifeIsFor

WhatLifeIsFor · 41-45, M

@Fifidog dear it is difficult. the triggers dont let you heal. please see a psychiatrist......... pm me if you want to discuss more.

Fairydust · F

They don’t change.

monellla731 · 46-50, M

there is no set time

DCarey · 46-50, M

Dump him

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