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Why the stigma with age gap relationships. Do you agree

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I have been with my husband who is a lot older than me for nine years. Incase you are wondering I’m 39 he is 78 yet I think a lot of society does not agree with this type of relationships. We still get a lot of verbal,abuse especially me and often accused of being a gold digger or even his whore but I’m not ashamed to be with him and we always hold hands in public
I’m not sure what the problem is we are both happy and it’s not harming anyone so why the stigma with these relationships?
I dated a guy that was 16 years older than me. He was a great guy but we had different goals for those times in our lives for it to really work out long-term. I'd do it again with someone either way provided the compatibility is there.
hunkalove · 61-69, M
I'm 72 and my girlfriend is 36. She just moved in with me a week ago. We have been together almost 2 years and we are very happy!
@hunkalove you made some space under the bridge?
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I'm might be wrong on this, but I think it depends on what country you live in. I'm from the UK and from my experience, most of my friends have age gap marriages maybe around 2 decades difference more or less, also a former landlord of mine, married an ex of a friend of mine at 30's her senior, my one friend married at 35, to a girl 18-years-old. All are still together some decades later. And a woman 24 was dating a 52-year-old in the apartment below before they moved into their own house. I have never heard anyone say a negative thing about these relationships in all this time ever. For one it is no one else's business, and as long as it's legal and they are happy, who's right is it to judge them anyway?

However, I also watch a lot of American crime docs, and even Judge Judy, and I notice something I would rarely hear on a UK TV programme. Yep, other people looking down on any age gap relationship. It's like a big deal. Even on MTV's Catfish, the victim finds out the catfish is really 18 and not closer to her age as they said, 24, lol! I've seen it often on Judge Judy, a woman who has been married at least 4 times, lecturing people on the stand, well males mostly, about how 'inappropriate' it is for say a 32-year-old man to date someone in their early 20's, as they are still 'babies' at that age and 'not fully cooked'. So that's not only a 'lesson' to the individual who is suing the younger woman from a failed relationship. That's lecturing 'America'. Making him out to be, well, almost a child molester/cradle snatcher. But any relationship can fail, JJ has had many failed marriages, not surprisingly perhaps!
I've seen repeat comments on US crime docs from the narrator. And friends and family being interviewed, also expressing their disappointment for such a relationship. True, the older one could have murdered the other but, what has that got to do with it?

Really it is nobody's business.

You do you and as long as you both are happy, fuck the busy-bodies!
BigImo · 22-25, F
For the most part I think it's fine, but I rarely go for it myself. When I was 16, I dated a guy for a few months who was 19, then after we broke up, I dated his dad who was 44 for almost a year. I'm still friends with both of them to this day
MrBrownstone · 46-50, M
@BigImo So you dated a pedo
BigImo · 22-25, F
@MrBrownstone 16 is legal here, darling
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@MrBrownstone that's a pretty ignorant comment, 16 is legal to marry in the UK, and 12 is consensual in Mexico, I think🤔. Try to think 'www' the World WIDE Web. I.e not everyone lives in or has the same laws and culture as your country.
reflectingmonkey · 51-55, M
I'm actually glad to hear I'm not alone, I also have a huge age gap between me and my girlfriend. I always figured that when she's your age and I'm your boyfriend(husband) age that she will leave me for someone younger but hearing your story gives me hope that she might actually stick around. I just get along better with younger women, last sunday 2 girls in their early 20's called me to hang out, we spent the day together. thursday my best friend, who is 23 yr old lesbian , came to have supper at my place and my girlfriend is also 23 but she is in south america right now. but yes, people judge my girlfriend a lot, everyone think she's just using me. I don't believe in agism, I have friends from 20 to 75 years old !!!
HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F
As long as every party is of well legal age and isn't being taken advantage of, it's fine. Same goes for taking advantage of the elders too, there are such phenomena because they too are vulnerable.
This gives me hope. I'm not as old as your husband, but would like to be in a relationship with a younger woman. Or, someone of the same age, or older. The age doesn't matter. I just want it to be a real, unconditional-love-based relationship.
Isthisit · F
People need to mind their own business
tallpowerhouseblonde · 36-40, F
As long as it is legal there should be no stigma.My boyfriend is 7 years older than me and I have dated men up to 15 years older than me.When I was 15 I was hooking up with a 25 year old guy specifically to gain sexual experience.
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As long as obviously not kids and it's legal it's fine. My husband is 21 years older and we've been married 16 years. Still love the bones of him. He's awesome ❤️
ElRengo · 70-79, M
Not going to vote.
Even so my thoughts about.

Though I don´t have a personal experience, IMO there shoudn´t be a stygma.
People fall in love and stay in love for their own frequently misterious reasons and that´s good.

Even so and in more general terms, relationships are not always easy, age gap or not.
Compatibility IS a serious thing.
And a signigicative age gap MAY be one factor on making it even harder.

But of course, there are counterexamples.

Best wishes for you both and your mutual love.
There are varying degrees of age gap, aren't there?

If a "generation" is about 20 yrs, your husband is about 2 generations older, so akin to being in a relationship with a man who could be a peer of a typical grandparent.

Put that way, it's surprising that you are surprised about a "stigma" associated with it.

And let's be real--four kids are not cheap.
Cathnandrew · 70-79, F
There is nothing wrong with them people should be more concerned about their own personal lives rather than anyone else’s. As you know I’m opposite to you in the fact I’m a lot older than my husband and we are constantly stared at when we go out but we ignore them and any comments they make
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Usually people that have an issue with age gap are women that have aged out of what men deem desirable to keep long term. That's when you start hearing shaming language like pedo, or you can't handle a real woman etc.
masterofyou · 70-79, M
There should be more age gap relationships and marriage.. When my very ill wife passes on i will marry my 25 year old girlfriend.....
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I don't really care as long as the couple are consenting adults

My bf is 20 years older than me
masterofyou · 70-79, M
I’m 78, and she is 24 I still bang her it really never gets old....
LandOfOz · 61-69, M
I just wanna find a woman like you
Lilred2289 · 31-35, F
You’re a great couple!
LandOfOz · 61-69, M
Good on you
Redgarnet · 22-25, F
I never in romantic age gap relationship before but i agree with the concept
ViciDraco · 36-40, M
They work for some, not for others. I do not agree or disagree with them. Entirely a base by case basis, just so long as we don't have old people preying on teenagers
strongbow · 46-50, M
I think its a stigma invented by feminist because many men prefer and/or choose younger females
strongbow · 46-50, M
@BigImo Oh so you're really an old lady tryin to be a younger female...lol...Let the hate flow...
BigImo · 22-25, F
@strongbow aww am I a bit old for you
strongbow · 46-50, M
@BigImo Jealous old ladies aint my thing👉
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