If a relationship feels like a cage, why do we rattle the bars with complaints instead of walking free?

@OlderSometimesWiser The amazing thing about Vickie is she found happiness in everyday life even after all she'd been through. She was like a giddy child around babies. She also never met a stranger and couldn't strike up a conversation with. Being so much different I will never stop missing her.

@Gibbon Sometimes experiencing so much pain causes you to appreciate the good things in life even more. 🙂

@OlderSometimesWiser True for her. Living here she found an inner peace she deserved and appreciated. I'll never forget her daughter telling me she told her she was the happiest she'd ever been.

@Renkon

Yes I believe anyone can but not everyone wants to do the work.

They get distracted by life, you have to face it and feel it.

@SW-User That's true

@Renkon

Life has too many distractions, ⚽🎥🕹 📺 coping mechanisms.

Stops us from really going within.

@EldritchFoxWhat do people fear?

@Renkon that they aren't loveable. That they can't make it on their own. That they're at fault somehow.

@EldritchFox It’s a terrifying feeling to carry…. wouldn’t that keep them trapped in an illusion of helplessness?

@Renkon ANGER. The anger I felt strengthened me.

I realized that I had spent 25 years with someone I THOUGHT I loved...but that he had not BEEN that person for a very long time.

He switched from being physically abusive to mentally abusive in order to avoid the jail I threatened him with...but I finally had ENOUGH.

I realized I still had a very large block of my life left to live, and I did NOT want to waste one more minute of it with him.

@4meAndyou You made the bold decision. I wonder why it took you so long to realise the truth? Was it hope?

@Renkon Its like the boiling frog theory.
You add the hot water one tablespoon at a time and the frog doesn't notice he is being cooked.
Thats how abusive relationships work.
If it happened all at once, you would have gotten the hell out sooner.

@LeGrotesque That's tough