If a relationship feels like a cage, why do we rattle the bars with complaints instead of walking free?

@4meAndyou How do you do it?

@Renkon ANGER. The anger I felt strengthened me.

I realized that I had spent 25 years with someone I THOUGHT I loved...but that he had not BEEN that person for a very long time.

He switched from being physically abusive to mentally abusive in order to avoid the jail I threatened him with...but I finally had ENOUGH.

I realized I still had a very large block of my life left to live, and I did NOT want to waste one more minute of it with him.

@4meAndyou You made the bold decision. I wonder why it took you so long to realise the truth? Was it hope?

@Renkon Its like the boiling frog theory.
You add the hot water one tablespoon at a time and the frog doesn't notice he is being cooked.
Thats how abusive relationships work.
If it happened all at once, you would have gotten the hell out sooner.