Why did every platonic friend I’ve ever had eventually tried to hit on me?

When my partner passed away, every man who was a friend and was never involved romantically hit on me. They became strangers overnight. It's like they wanted to fill some void. Like I couldn't live without sex or something. I needed a friend, not a lover.

its alot easier for me to be in a platonic relationship if i am romantically involved with someone else. if i am single, if we are platonic friends then, either i have no attraction to you, or i may have minimal attraction to you and i will never act on it, or, i am attracted to you and the right situation hasnt presented itself. i tend to have platonic friends who are ex gf, and i have already been down that road, so, there is no curiosity involved.

Because platonic means one of three things:
1) There was no physical interest to begin with
2) You shut them down and they accepted
3) They’re gay.

Remember when you were a child and one of your parents said, “Don’t touch that!”, but you couldn’t resist. You had to try…

That.

Sometimes things start out platonic, but can evolve into deeper feelings.

The deeper feelings usually come from them knowing and feeling comfortable being around you....

(Or at least, that's what I'm guessing)

If there’s a pattern look for a constant. Maybe boundaries aren’t good enough and you should recalibrate those. It’s also a good idea for genders to consider biology and instinct when you are setting your boundaries for the friendship to flourish platonically. We miss read signals easily and fantasize with the smallest of interactions. Just be clear so he doesn’t get away with feelings. We struggle to interpret women. When we pick a romantic partner we choose a woman that cares and could be our closest friend to share our life with so don’t put yourself in that position and you won’t struggle with that anymore.

I've thought about this for a weird amount of time. I think it mostly boils down to a fundamental difference in the way boys and girls are raised/how they operate. Men have a tendency towards action/the immediate/now. For them being very good friends becomes an excellent platform to a next stage. I think women tend to view things in a longer term and consider the likelihood of more of a relationship to fail or progress and don't want to risk the loss of a friend.

That's my theory about it anyway

Genetics. Few thousands of year of evolution.

We manz cant help instinct.

Hmmm most people are like that, apparently

Both men and women do this.

There are many reasons why. No point trying to narrow them down to a single answer.

It is better to focus on your own reactions to the situation. And how they affect your life.

Platonic or not we are all human and have needs if he was not at all attracted to you he would not be your close friend.

What do we covet? We covet what we see every day.

Maybe you're very lovable🙂

Happens when youre attractive..

Maybe you're just that lovable!

It’s in your name 😁

you did nothing wrong - i want to be clear on that. there's a large group of people I've met who are obviously starved for positive attention, but, a minority of those people will misinterpret any attention as affection. those people are just not well balanced or mature enough to know the difference.