how do i let go of someone while having a trauma bond with them

@shtimfappaz ok im crying but this is the funniest shiy i’ve seen all day

@bowchow it's easier to deal with guys, jealousy etc

@shtimfappaz real

@deadteddy That's great answer 😊

@bowchow Your doing your best right . You can't do anymore with that , but trying to change another person never works . You destroy yourself more .
Correct me if wrong .
Or you doing your best cause your afraid you"ll never end up in a relationship again .
That's a huge fear.
That fear overwhelms you .
If you love by the way it looks like you do .
You can't do anymore.
I bought my ex top phones at the time .
Went around the world with her and I didn't even want to go .
Bought her more expensive stuff for her .
Went to College for her and I didn't even want to go . All to keep her happy and she never was .
You"ll never find your happiness in other people . There's people that can provide happiness only for short time but all of those ideas run out and you end up stale again do you get me .
It's a good thing your after experiencing pain at that age . You"ll get wiser now

@riseofthemachine but why does it have to hurt this bad. i dont wanna feel like this, i dont wanna be scared that nobody will love me like my ex tells me. i dont even wanna miss him. i’m so tired of feeling like this, it’s been 2 years that i’ve spent with him and the first year was bliss. we were so happy tg. he was happy, we planned to get married, to live tg. have children tg. he already has a daughter n she’s called me her mom before. you don’t know how happy it made me to know she loves me too. she loved me n she was only 4 i believe. i wanted to take care of both of them. but why does losing him have to hurt like this.

i’d do anything to js turn back time n tell myself to go to sleep the night me n him met. had i js stayed asleep i wouldn’t have to have met him. i wouldn’t feel like this.

it’s so tiring. and nobody cares anymore bc i’ve cried over him for a year. i’ve tried for him for a year. countless arguments. countless insults n slut shaming. body shaming. i’ve cut off friends for him. i’ve done everything i can for him. i’ve put up with so much js for his love. why can’t he see that im trying so hard for him?? i can’t ever wrap my mind around the fact that he he seemed to of gotten BORED of me n doesn’t want me anymore. i put my all. im never doing this shit again, but i miss being LOVED. he was all i had.why is it so easy for him to js leg go of me n hate me. while i still try n beg him for another chance.

@bowchow I was with my ex 4 years .
The first couple of years were good .
Everyone wants that in a relationship but I'll tell you not to be hurtful but on her part , the buzz of the relationship was gone . She cheated on me . I stayed in that relationship for another year and half to make it work out but she lost interest. That hurt then but as what I said I didn't feel the real pain until I was out of it and ended up in a mental institution .
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE don't take the part of love as far as I went. I was suicidal for a year and half . I lost 3 stone in 6 months over it and I was doing exactly what you were doing to try make someone love you .
PLEASE don't go as far as I went .