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LadyGrace · 70-79
Would you rather marry or date a beautiful smart alec who thinks she knows it all? Come on. Don't judge a person because they may not be on the same intellectual platform as you. Makes me wonder if you even respect who you're with. If she's your girlfriend she should be your girlfriend no matter what and the very fact that you had to ask this is very concerning. If you love her it doesn't matter what anybody thinks.
JimFarris16 · 18-21, M
@LadyGrace Pardon MY ignorance but, if this place isn't where to ask such things, what it's purpose? If I didn't respect her, I wouldn't be concerned about possibly taking advantage of her without even realizing it. I'd just be like "Ah, oh well!". I was concerned that simply dating her was taking advantage, and that I was some sort of pig for not caring about intelligence. Society puts a lot of pressure on us younger people to feel like intellect is the most important thing.
LadyGrace · 70-79
@JimFarris16 that's not what I meant about asking it. Of course we can ask everything here and that's why this place is great to get different opinions. I'm just wondering why you would care what others think about your seeing someone that you don't feel is as smart as you. It doesn't matter what others think about it but if it bothers you that much, then there seems to be a real problem for you. Your answer made no sense at all. You know when you're taking advantage of someone or not. Is she that helpless? I doubt she is.
Only if she showed the potential to learn. Most people don't have to learn, even university graduates, we dumbed everything down alot even when studying to be a physicians assistant.
Will Durant was best known for his introduction to The Story of Philosophy (a rather shallow introduction book I've had morons quote religiously to me), but wrote on the history of ideas encyclopedically.
He married one of his pupils, she was so into him she adopted her pet name for him legally as her first name (sorry mom and dad), and went on to help him in his research. He eventually started to co-credit her, and she in time became a writer in her own right.
Such a endeavor is risky. It means a person exploring a high level of individualization and breaking with ideologies and beliefs of the past on a very personal level, and you can't guide them towards what you think is best. You can state what you believe, but you have to hold alot back so as not to mess with the authenticity of the process. If you are not having run ins that don't risk the relationship from her suddenly questioning stuff, you are likely doing it wrong. You're trying to create a advanced and creative individual, not a mere extention of yourself. The same bonds and methods used for consulations may no longer work.
If a INTJ like myself met a INTJ woman, it sould be a very, very stable relationship and I wouldn't have to worry about things like if I'm taking advantage of her because she thinks cheetos are a fruit. Pretty much anyone else, and I'll demand a certain level of life experience (not wealth or success, just progress and maturity) and intelligence, or at least show evidence for the spark of it present. I'm otheriwse not impressed beyond the physical level. And I wouldn't consider a dumb (no potential), physically unattractive woman. I could go with a plain but intellectually mature woman, but I can't mix stupid with no looks. That's just definately not happening, nothing at all for me in that.
Will Durant was best known for his introduction to The Story of Philosophy (a rather shallow introduction book I've had morons quote religiously to me), but wrote on the history of ideas encyclopedically.
He married one of his pupils, she was so into him she adopted her pet name for him legally as her first name (sorry mom and dad), and went on to help him in his research. He eventually started to co-credit her, and she in time became a writer in her own right.
Such a endeavor is risky. It means a person exploring a high level of individualization and breaking with ideologies and beliefs of the past on a very personal level, and you can't guide them towards what you think is best. You can state what you believe, but you have to hold alot back so as not to mess with the authenticity of the process. If you are not having run ins that don't risk the relationship from her suddenly questioning stuff, you are likely doing it wrong. You're trying to create a advanced and creative individual, not a mere extention of yourself. The same bonds and methods used for consulations may no longer work.
If a INTJ like myself met a INTJ woman, it sould be a very, very stable relationship and I wouldn't have to worry about things like if I'm taking advantage of her because she thinks cheetos are a fruit. Pretty much anyone else, and I'll demand a certain level of life experience (not wealth or success, just progress and maturity) and intelligence, or at least show evidence for the spark of it present. I'm otheriwse not impressed beyond the physical level. And I wouldn't consider a dumb (no potential), physically unattractive woman. I could go with a plain but intellectually mature woman, but I can't mix stupid with no looks. That's just definately not happening, nothing at all for me in that.
smiler2012 · 61-69
@JimFarris16 🤔well really does it really matter if someone is not up mensa prize long as you are both happy that is most important
JimFarris16 · 18-21, M
@smiler2012 True, I've been judged a few times, but I'm happy and don't take advantage of her.
SomeMichGuy · M
Up to the guy, but the girl might not be aware.
JimFarris16 · 18-21, M
@SomeMichGuy Aware of what?
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JimFarris16 · 18-21, M
@SomeMichGuy My girlfriend isn't very smart, but I like her for more than her looks, I like her personality and that she's not so serious.
exexec · 61-69, C
No. It is not wrong, and it can work out fine for both parties.
come2gether · 46-50, M
Huh. This is a very odd question. Relationships are about so much more than how smart one is perceived by others.