No one I’m in a relationship with gives me enough mental stimulation!!! It’s SO ANNOYING

@SW-User my parents tell me that lol they say if you have that much time go get yourself a man and start a family

@Fifidog do it

@in10RjFox I'm sorry, but I have to respectfully disagree.
I've done so much study on this to cure it within myself ....and I'm still working on it .

You're telling her to stuff her time with more people to fix a problem with feeling bored ?
That's the equivalent of telling an addict to just have some more 🤷

What happens when she finds herself alone, or with someone and it isn't enough ?
What happens after she gets used to seeing more people and doing more stuff and it's a quiet moment and it feels even more boring by comparison ?

Stuffing your life with more every moment, is the reason this happens to people in the first place .
It's what can lead to depression .
It's why people become drama junkies, just to make life exciting .
It's what makes people seek out drugs to feel normal ....or good again, coz they have buolt up a tolerance to their own dopamine.

The whole point of resetting is to be able to not depend upon others for entertainment, but to be content with not being entertained .
- to be emotionally self sufficient - to cope with being alone, or happy with someone NOT doing anything.
To stop the continual need for dopamine stimulation....which leads to dopamine addiction, which leads to extreme behaviour seeking ...or worse .

@OogieBoogie what's the use of curing oneself to only be alone ? She is bored because she is alone and find no purpose. I am telling her that her purpose is distributed within others and she can find it from them and not by remaining all alone and to oneself.

She is longing for appreciation and that is going to happen only if she lets someone appreciate her.


Your analogies are always a bit screwed up and that you tend to find one that's totally unsuitable.

She has no people around and that she says she is already alone. So I have told her to go explore people.. and not stuff her life with strangers. It means that she has to meet and make more individuals and not just get into groups.

No use of imagining all sorts of situations like what if the roof collapses when she is in the room or she falls sick.

I am telling her to get spoilt so one can then get into a new cleanliness and life is excitingly seasonal . rather than one season all the time.

@in10RjFox All you took from what I said is to be alone ? All the time ?

You've taken it from one extreme: yours, to the other....which is also yours, not mine .

Its about about balance, to become centered so you can do , and appreciate both happily .

Our minds are overstimulated with media, contacts, friends, messaging , texting, posting, tiktoks, insta, facebook....it goes on and on.
We are losing out consentration, patience, imagination and sense of quiet self.

Which is what I truly believe she needs to get back in touch with. To be content in onesself and have no need to seek or fill a void, because she won't feel a void anymore.

She doesn't say her issue is being alone, her issue is being bored ...even with people she cares about .

You can exaggerate my words all you want and deride me ...that's ok.
My research is sound, backed by psychology and neurochemistry....and personal trial.

Spoiling oneself too much on dopamine only leads to one path .....depression. And that's only the start of it .

If you wish to negate mindfulness, thats totally up to you.

I'm sure she will choose what she feels is best for her.

@SW-User hi twin I’m so lonely too. Why do you think we feel like this? Is it the people out there or is it us like the way our brains are wired or something?

@Fifidog I know people say it’s like getting used to someone and getting bored, but it’s not that. I’ve been in ltr where I tried so hard to keep things fresh. Keep it zesty daily. I don’t really get bored. But my partners were boring and it gets boring doing all the work.

I know I have a seemingly larger capacity for unconditional love, but it’s common for people to try to manipulate me and gaslight me because they feel inadequate. They can’t keep up if you’re fun and smart and you’ve got fire.

Looking for someone else to fuel you when they are too lazy or inept to spark themselves, gets tiring. Especially these days when people are super distracted by menial stuff and have no time for passion because they’re too consumed by “life”.

I pursue my personal interests and I’m done catering and giving to people without the creativity to love me in a way that makes me feel alive. Like I’ve dated people that put me to sleep. Frustratingly dull.

I don’t know what to do. I can only be myself. As much as I’d love to be held and cared for, I haven’t met my match. Maybe I never will. But I know I won’t suffer another minute of someone always expecting me to do all the work while they enjoy. Like hell naw

🖤

@Glossy thanks!

@SW-User what do you mean

@SW-User sorry that should have read stimulation

@DunningKruger not skydiving but spontaneous adventures like randomly deciding to take a two hour drive to somewhere new, or following where a cop car is going to see if there’s any action. Random things like that