No one I’m in a relationship with gives me enough mental stimulation!!! It’s SO ANNOYING

I need some sort of adrenaline or stimulation. My brain feels like it’s lacking something or craving something. Like it’s low on something or something and then I get like a stuck or bored feeling. I’m not having fun in life
I’m bored no matter what I do. I’m posting this In relationships cause I don’t know if I’m picking the wrong people for me to be in relationships with and that’s why I find them boring, or if I’m the one whose boring, or if I have some sort of chemical low in my brain making me feel bored. Pleaseeee if someone else has experienced how I’m feeling reach out. I don’t know why I’m feeling this way but I just know I hate it. I wish I knew why I feel this way cause I think it could better my relationships moving forward

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SW-User

I am right here.

I don’t date anymore because a majority of people bore me to tears. I’m to the point I can’t dull myself or fake it anymore. I feel very under stimulated and to compensate I try to learn a lot. I travel and give myself a lot of freedom to be myself.

It’s lonely 🖤

Fifidog · 26-30, F

@SW-User hi twin I’m so lonely too. Why do you think we feel like this? Is it the people out there or is it us like the way our brains are wired or something?

SW-User

@Fifidog I know people say it’s like getting used to someone and getting bored, but it’s not that. I’ve been in ltr where I tried so hard to keep things fresh. Keep it zesty daily. I don’t really get bored. But my partners were boring and it gets boring doing all the work.

I know I have a seemingly larger capacity for unconditional love, but it’s common for people to try to manipulate me and gaslight me because they feel inadequate. They can’t keep up if you’re fun and smart and you’ve got fire.

Looking for someone else to fuel you when they are too lazy or inept to spark themselves, gets tiring. Especially these days when people are super distracted by menial stuff and have no time for passion because they’re too consumed by “life”.

I pursue my personal interests and I’m done catering and giving to people without the creativity to love me in a way that makes me feel alive. Like I’ve dated people that put me to sleep. Frustratingly dull.

I don’t know what to do. I can only be myself. As much as I’d love to be held and cared for, I haven’t met my match. Maybe I never will. But I know I won’t suffer another minute of someone always expecting me to do all the work while they enjoy. Like hell naw

🖤