Oh girl...oh oh oh. I mean.. you can definitely do better dear. He sounds like an egotistical, depressed and dark type of person who wants you but only in his own terms. That's not true love. Step back, do yourself a favour and create space in your life away from him, the situation sounds truly devastating for your well being. Goodbye him, the sooner the better.
He needs help actually but don't fall for it, you can't help him. All the best...

Ya I would leave, sometimes loving them isn’t enough, you need and deserve to be loved the way you need and want.

Yeah I would drop it. Especially in a long-distance phone calls or texting is very important to maintain it at the bare minimum. But if you aren't even getting that regularly either tf.
Plus he doesn't seem interested as you are, otherwise he would make an effort. Married before or not.

You guys just don't seem to line up with the same interests/goals in this case. And like someone else said, unless you're okay with it being this way forever then I would move on.
The longer you stay with him the more time you waste finding the partner you actually want.

He’s a dick

A long distance relationship is hard enough even when both want to see each other, but when one doesn't really want to make the effort it becomes unbearable. If I were you I'd give up, especially since you want something serious (marriage).

hugs that is tough--I have been the guy who works too much before. But i was always wiling to sit down and talk it out and even left a job before to get more time in a relationship. I tell you that because i know what it is like to have a job that is really hour intensive and to get lost in that job. I would just figure if I can get past this hump I can slow down in work and often that was true. I don't know his situation though. I don't know if there is a light at the end of his tunnel that will let him slow down or if he just really is passionate about working.

a month is really unreasonable . I am sorry for your pain and hope you find a resolution that is emotionally healthy for you.

I wish I could box this dude. Straight up. To me, he's so damn disrespectful and dishonest to treat a woman like that. He's no man, idc how old he is. Sure, he checked out. His right to do if things just don't jive, but to keep leading you on, disrespect how YOU feel, then hide away because you're calling him out. He should hold an honest conversation with you about the relationship, instead of being a d. Man, he'd not worth your time and effort. Don't cry over a boy like that.

Falling in love is one thing. Actually being compatible us a completely different matter. Sustaining a relationship even if in love and compatible is another thing still. I think the vast majority of people no-longer have the maturity to do that. Maybe your guy feels the same, in which case you don't even sound compatible. Sorry to say it straight out but it's just my opinion from what you're telling us. I wouldn't wish it upon anyone to throw their love away, for the pain it inevitably causes eventually.

I think the final „thanks for the pearls“ comment says it all. When someone bares their soul and wants to talk about working on a relationship I can see the response being difficult but no way sarcasm. It’s sad but this may be a case of you’ve done all you could and time to move on to someone who appreciates your commitment and communicates with respect.

I'm one of those guys that work on the road also, and just from what you've said already, I can tell that you're not going to do well with that life.
That's not at all your fault. It takes a toll on the wife back at home and then if you introduce children into that life, it gets even worse.
You're in a rough spot and I truly feel for you, but that's the reality of the circumstances as long as he plans to stay on the road.
I've tried coming off the road but the best I can do both financially as well as control my sanity,is to go out on the road a few weeks every few months. Once you get a taste for that big money, it's hard to turn it down. Plus if he's anything like me, he'll go crazy not seeing different jobs or different states.
The other side to this though is the loneliness we face, living in hotels most of the year. So it's hard on us to which in turn, creates even more stress in a relationship

Hes checked out.

"Love is blind" ~Geoffrey Chaucer

"They say marriages are made in Heaven. But so is thunder and lightning" ~Clint Eastwood

There is a man out there right now wishing, hoping and praying for someone exactly like you who will treat you like the Queen you are.

This guy is not him ...you know I'm right.

Move on .... or learn to be happy with living with the current ever lasting situation. (He's not going to help you do that either.) (imho). How much more abuse do you really want from him?

Ew he’s a jerk!

Long distance relationships are difficult to sustain. Aim to be with each other at least one weekend once a fortnight.

Do things together.

Work is not the most important thing in life. People are.

Honestly, I just don’t think he’s that into you. He may very well have another relationship going on. You need to sever ties with him and find a man that is ready to commit. That’s what you want and deserve.

get out

he's not addicted to work. he's either fucking other women or he's a horrible communicator

you can do better

If I were you, I'd be concerned that he might be involved with someone or something else.

His previous wife may have screwed him so bad he is not able to trust and be in a good relationship.

He's likely an avoidant attachment style. He does love you, but is afraid of commitment and content with distance and time apart. You cannot change him. It's better to look for someone who is receptive to you and that will make you happy. You deserve that

Y’all don’t share the same relationship goals or interests. Sorry, you should cut the line and move on.

Sorry to say but I dont think it will work.

There's nothing to look forward to with him

good luck to you. ❤️

He is not into you. Sorry.

A man who does not have time for a wife should not have a wife.. that should be self-evident. Jesus said this concerning marriage "Let the one who can make room for it make room for it", and your bf from the sounds of it is not making room for it. (Matthew 19:12)

There's also this hehe "Corinthians 7:38 So also, whoever marries does well, but whoever does not marry will do better."

He's not making you a priority, bottom line. Sorry to be blunt. You can't get blood from a stone.