Can someone please teach me how to stay single?!

@BlueVeins Teach me your ways! 😆

@wtfgirl001 wreck your energy levels too much to ever feel motivated to leave the home, make yourself as unattractive as possible, and maintain a negative attitude.

@BlueVeins Haha, thanks. I think I'm already working these steps.

@Tastyfrzz My parents didn't get along, they fought all the time and eventually divorced when I was 7. Then she quickly remarried within the next year and the guy is kind of a misogynist. She worked, cleaned, took care of the children, all while wearing heels and red lipstick and he didn't work.

I think I've taken on my Mom's giving attitude in relationships and I forget to have higher expectations and to expect things from my partners. This leads to them not respecting me or taking advantage of me in some way. I think I took on the idea that it's better to feel loved (kept) than it is to love myself.

@wtfgirl001 So it sounds like you don't have any good roll models to feel comfortable with. Someone who treats you with respect might come across as ignoring you as they wouldn't make you the center of attention.

@Tastyfrzz Good point. I do think I tend to go with the "love bombers" over the people who are more reserved with showing their affection.

@WhateverWorks I'm working on that right now. It's strange that once I become busy and start working toward goals everyone wants to hangout and do things that kind of derail it all (like going out drinking or partying).

But if I am sad and feeling alone it's like everyone is busy. They only have time for me when I don't have time for them.

It might be that they just don’t know how to be supportive when you’re having a hard time, but when you’re busy you’re vibrant and fun to be around, so everybody comes out of the woodwork. It is hard to stay focused when everyone is offering you potentially fun distractions. You’ll find your balance though: getting stuff accomplished and creating time for yourself to recharge with fun @wtfgirl001

@NerdyPotato Hahaha 🤣😆

@R5000 I just want to focus on myself. I've found that when I start dating someone I turn my focus and energy toward them... and sometimes even lose myself.

@wtfgirl001 codependency?

@SinlessOnslaught Dead serious.

@wtfgirl001 I'm far from a therapist but I've been studying psychology since I was 12. We can talk if you want.

@DunningKruger Good take on what it means to be single. Maybe I should look at it that way when I'm dating.

"I'm still single until I'm married."

@wtfgirl001 You know, like everyone in the English-speaking world did before Gen Z, I guess?

@lonelylonerx

@jackson55 I know, right? Why isn't it that easy for me?

@Bklynbadboy12 These boys keep getting me into trouble... lol, jk.

I just need to focus on myself for a while, so trying to stay single. Otherwise I start turning some of my focus toward someone else.

@OldMan70 Polyamory isn't just about sex, but that's a whole long spiel that I don't want to get into.

@SkeetSkeet That's a good idea. I might take you up on that.

@LordShadowfire Okay, done. Next step?

... and I'm using this hippie deodorant that isn't doing shit to help me, so I think I get bonus points for that.

@wtfgirl001 Clothes don't need to be washed [i]every[/i] day, you know...

@LordShadowfire Haha, I like the way you think. 😉