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Meh, this is not generally the case, not by a long shot. I used to own a nightclub, and regularly detained people, both men and women who behaved inappropriately or sexually abused someone. I would call the local police and either hand over video of the assault, present witnesses or whatever else I had to prove what took place.

I know plenty of business owners who have similarly done the same with employees and patrons alike.

If you do not get satisfaction when you report abuse to someone, then report it to someone who will do something about it. Or in your case, report the abuse to another teacher, your school consular, principle, psychologist, nurse, local law enforcement, etc. I'm not trying to discount how you felt when you were attacked, it's wrong and nobody, not male nor female, should ever have to put up with that type of behavior, sexual misconduct or abuse. But you are not powerless, you can do something about it.

There are also apps you can download for your phone that make it easy to use them as a recording device or video recording device simply by shaking them. This can be done in your pocket so that you can record proof of the assault.

You can carry legal sprays, bear spray works well, that you can deploy if attacked.

It bothers me that some people behave in this way, it's unfortunate but they certainly shouldn't get away with it. Not only did they make you a victim but they will surely repeat these same acts with someone else. It makes me upset and sad even to see how many people are just now coming out about their own abuse, but at least it's being exposed and people are having serious conversations about it. I can appreciate your post and what it must have taken to post this. I'm sorry this happened to you, and to everyone else it has happened to, children, male and female. We all need to continue to expose people that behave in unacceptable ways, and make sure they are properly prosecuted if they commit these types of crimes.

No one understands how shameful it feels for somthing like that to happen unless they experience it themselves.
Thanks for being brave and sharing your story

The feeling of helplessness keeps a lot of us silent. :(

I'm sorry this happened to you, both the violation and the cruel indifference.

Someone here once said, People don't care how you feel, they only care how you make them feel.

I have found this is often the case.

I was raped in 1963 when nearly everyone believed (and let me know) that it was entirely the woman's fault. My attempts to report it met with laughs from the local police. My "friends" told me I was wrong to tell anyone about it because I would be subjected to negative gossip and loss of my reputation (they were right--and, at least among those people, my reputation has never recovered). One session with a therapist was enough for me; she told me I was lying and she stated she did not believe me. No one gave me any kind of support. It gave me a lot of cynicism about the human race. I still carry a certain amount of real resentment about this. I lost my virginity to a brutal stranger rape, and I only encountered two kinds of attitudes when I told people: It was my fault. Or, at least, I shouldn't be telling anyone about it.

I hope the more of us keep telling our stories the more a tidal wave will build against harassment. But it's so hard to do it when you don't know if you'll ever see the day when that will finally happen. But it definitely won't ever happen if we don't keep doing it. Stay strong and keep speaking up!

Please remember the good men that will protect you.

I have experienced SO MUCH unwanted inappropriate “attention” from men, I’ve become sour about men in general. I’ve had prestigious doctors, attorneys, professionals (men) who took advantage of a situation and touched, made gestures, advanced, etc.

I was so shocked that a surgeon put his hand on my crotch while I was in his office that I couldn’t talk, respond, or report it. I thought I imagined it, because he was SO HIGHLY RESPECTED/PRESTIGIOUS. I doubted reality because of that bastard! I realize I have disassociated from many memories like this, because it’s too overwhelming to talk about and I felt like I would be told, “you asked for it”.

I’m married to a man who respects me so highly, and I think he’s a rarity.

FYI MEN: Just because a woman dresses provocatively doesn’t mean she’s asking for anything!

This is useful insight. Sorry for your experience. Thanks for using it to teach an important lesson, especially in these times.

expressing what is mind is good.

So true

Horrible what happened,

that teacher should be in jail ..if you were my daughter I assure you it would have never happened again

I got attacked like that twice in my life. Needless to say, after the first time, the second one didn't take kindlyto how bad I fucked up his face.

Sorry that happened to you. That really sucks and they should have punished him so he would learn that is unacceptable.

What that teacher did was pathetic and he doesn't deserve his job.

Thanks for speaking for all women. In general, most men suck with a few exceptions.

Well said