Is it a red flag that a man over a certain age does not have any kids? Asking for myself. Trying not to stick my foot in my mouth but genuinely want

1) If this is a guy you only ‘know’, it’s truly none of your business.

2) If you are involved with him or thinking about it, and you have kids or want kids, then you can ask. But tread carefully. I dated a guy briefly (2 or 3 dates) who was oddly silent on personal history. I asked. He told me his wife had unalived herself, then his daughter was killed in a one-car accident, and after a year his son, the only remaining child, also chose to stop living. A couple of days after that conversation, he told me he just wasn’t ready for a relationship. Consider what locked box you may be trying to open. For both your sakes.

3) I think not having children as a choice is a Green flag. Far better than the men who go about fertilizing fields they have no intention of tending. Many men seem to see no connection between “fun” and “Dad.”

It might be he knew he wasn’t going to father the right way. It could be infertility. It could be tragic, like my date. The world would be better if people didn’t just “oops!” their way into really awful parenting.

well i'm 75 and no kids, wife coundn' have any, so why should i be considered a red flag? i don't get it, I'm an okay guy, honest, dependable was a hard worker, just an unsually post

Could be just as likely, as it could not be.

Having said that, I never found the right person to have them with. And yes, I actually turned down one women once. She definitely wasn't the right person.

Some relationships should never happen.

It could be, especially if you have kids. At the same time, maybe he was unlucky, and never found the right one. It happens.

Better that he has none than he has them and treats them badly. It’s a choice, but I would guess it might make the person more self cantered.

The real red flag is when someone has kids, but they are estranged from them as they never communicate. Major red flag. I walked away from one woman because of that exact condition. I think I dodged a bullet.

I met a doctor that i was crazy about. he was married twice with no kids. his wives were ambitious. i am assuming they didn't want kids either but 2 things to ponder

How are we supposed to answer this for you? You have to know what you expect from a man and if this is a red flag for you. To me personally it sounds more like a green flag, honestly.

Only if you think not wanting kids is something bad. Not every one wants or has to have kids, and birth control is pretty good these days.

As a man i would not have learned what its like to be a real man without being a father too.

I don't follow the logic of it being a red flag; I wouldn't think so.

I dont know if its a red flag or not. Could simply be by choice or for a medical reason he's unable to have a child of his own.

No.
He could be infertile or have made a choice not to have kids. Either way, not necessarily a red flag on its own.

No, some people don't want kids.

It might be a red flag about whoever is concerned about it.

No, but a man with several kids from many different women would make my eyebrows go up.

What if his former wife couldn't have kids

Assumptions are dangerous

Obviously not. Some people don’t want kids.

idk, seems like its a red flag if he does

Why would it be?

It could be a green flag.

@KiaraKiara = Maybe none of the women smelled right or looked right to the guy.

Only if he hates kids. Otherwise, no.

Of course not. That’s ridiculous. Why would it be?

No

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