Is it a red flag that a man over a certain age does not have any kids? Asking for myself. Trying not to stick my foot in my mouth but genuinely want

1) If this is a guy you only ‘know’, it’s truly none of your business.

2) If you are involved with him or thinking about it, and you have kids or want kids, then you can ask. But tread carefully. I dated a guy briefly (2 or 3 dates) who was oddly silent on personal history. I asked. He told me his wife had unalived herself, then his daughter was killed in a one-car accident, and after a year his son, the only remaining child, also chose to stop living. A couple of days after that conversation, he told me he just wasn’t ready for a relationship. Consider what locked box you may be trying to open. For both your sakes.

3) I think not having children as a choice is a Green flag. Far better than the men who go about fertilizing fields they have no intention of tending. Many men seem to see no connection between “fun” and “Dad.”

It might be he knew he wasn’t going to father the right way. It could be infertility. It could be tragic, like my date. The world would be better if people didn’t just “oops!” their way into really awful parenting.