What is it about SW? [I Am Amused By Human Behavior]

For the friends that stick with me through all the good and bad times.

Because it's the only place that makes me feel a little less alone.

The only reason that I haven't left permanently, is because of the good people who always seem to show up when I have had just about all can stand of this place, and I am reminded that there is love and kindness on here.

Because despite all of that there are some people here that make all the difference.☺️ And also, it's nice to have that place to express oneself.

I like it here, it's fun. If things do become heavy I just pull away for awhile.

I found EP while my hubby was away completing his second PhD . I forged some friendships and experienced things I never had before plus found out what we did in the bedroom wasn’t perverted as I feared but fairly common. When Ep shut down I came here to its offspring. . Again I have met more amazing people and enjoy conversing with them. I think when people come here for romance and companionship at first what this place offers is more than enough . But eventually they notice it lacks substance and it isn’t real . They get heartbroken and blame this site for their misery and leave . I have seen it so many times .

I come here when I do not want to think about bigger issues

If I could offer some insight to those who feel that way, I would say that if your happiness does not come from directly within you, you will never find it in other people. You will never find it in a website, and you won't find it anywhere outside of yourself.

True happiness lies in a feeling of self completion, and also lies in the realm of the spirit. OTHER people can not complete you or make you happy in any way if you are deeply unhappy with yourself. (I want to say that happiness is in God, who lives in everyone's heart, but so many people don't believe in God, or even a higher power).

I am here because I like to wake up here. I like to drink my tea, and read, and stimulate my mind with the scarce number of interesting posts usually present in the mornings. I enjoy my friends quite a bit, because they are kind and funny and caring, and anyone who is abusive or unbearable is simply blocked.

I just came to check on you, so most importantly, why haven't you been here in weeks?😳☹️ I haven't been around as much lately & I apologize, sweet sister.

Like I always tell my friends, I'll return in a matter of weeks or months, so never freak out. I mostly miss the intellectual posts, and the environment isn't one I can truly thrive in like before. Questions, silly questions..I want content and substance, but know those days are over.

I've experienced everything imaginable here, and it's all made me stronger. I know I'm a broken record with the silver linings speech. Something good always follows the bad. You know my stories; old & recent, knowing my love/hate relationship with this place. Fuck the broken hearted stuff, it was never love, nor did I ever leave over it either. The fading friendships hurt more; ones you never thought would dump you by not engaging in sex chats later on in the mix. It's bullshit so many are worried about.🙄

But that one who walked in & said, I'm not here to talk sex with you, just interested in you, changed my trust in humanity here. Not that I didn't have other guy friends do the same, but....(ya know, and know I swore to death..NEVER)
And void of his presence here, I'll always remain because I see the value here more; all of my true friends, just like you shine even brighter because he renewed that gleam of trust. I was missing TRUST. Who knows what will happen there, but I had no expectations, nor was looking to begin with, but I'm confident we'll remain best friends with feels...

BUT.....

You guys need me, as I need you guys...my tiny little circle is so grand. I can't promise that I won't take lengthy breaks though. I don’t care what anyone thinks of this place, but the constant need for social media is not healthy. Some people stay here all day like it's therapy. Maybe it is, but I have to find balance and center myself too much, or else I lose myself.


I love you & hope to see you soon. You're forever in my thoughts, sweetheart. I know you face all too much.❤😘🤗

Mostly I think it’s because I’m not ready to let go of those souls I’ve come to care about, and that seems okay. But I know there’s more to it. I know I find inspiration here. Kindness and sometimes even support, which are things I fall into a habit of thinking I don’t need but I do. There’s perspective here from all directions - the people reminding you of good things, the ones making you glad you’re not like them, the people from places and lives so different from yours you can hardly imagine. There’s value in that I think. There’s also value in sharing - even those things you don’t think anyone else will care about. It just feels good. And just all these words from other people - it’s like walking into a hall with all these voices other than my own and even if it doesn’t quite kill the loneliness or isolation of the moment, it softly reminds that I’m not alone. I’m really the only one who creates a detriment here. When I bring hopes or needs and let an expectation creep in - this is not the place for that. When I turn to this because it’s easy when I know what I really need takes more effort, that’s on me. But then, it’s good to be reminded of that, too. LOL

Glad you ask, cuz there are people with whom we never sat, and we didn't not touch their hands, and we didn't see their faces frowning directly from us or smiling while seeing us, but we only spoke to them "online here calls face time maybe" , and the strange thing is that despite all that stands between us, we felt with them complete balance, ability To face life lightly so I'm more thankful.

I am here for people like you...

How would have I found you if it wasnt for SW??

🤗🤗❤

I keep asking myself the same things. The only reason I can think of is the few good friends I have made here over the years, and the desperate hope that one day it won't leave me so lonely and empty inside.

Bewbies.

It helps me pass the time. I don't hate this site. I never have. I just know it's not healthy.

BECAUSE SO MANY OF US ARE PATHETIC.

.. Myself included.

Well...not sure about all of the above, but I do enjoy the people here for the most part. I spend my morning here, waking up...which is a long slow process for some of us...😆. There are some rotters here, to be sure, but I have plenty of blocks available, and I am not afraid to use them.

SW is a microcosm of the entire world, filled with people of every sort. If you come here believing you will find love, you will be disappointed...but if you GIVE love and hugs to those who seem to need it, you will always find fulfillment here.

I have several caring friends who enrich my life on this site, and several old friends here from EP. If I were not a member, I would never have met my new friends, nor would I have rediscovered the old ones. Win Win! 😊

I don’t complain about being here. I choose to login and know I am always free to leave.

So while I understand people are dissatisfied with the way some people behave and I totally get taking periodic breaks (because it does get intense here), I don’t understand constantly trashing the site while continuing to login.

EP was awesome, but it’s gone. Five years in April will be the anniversary of its closing. And those who are expecting to find the loves of their lives on SW are more likely than not to be disappointed.

it's obviously an addiction

Honestly I'm here less and less
I usually pop on to see some buds (who haven't already left) 😕
but other than that its pretty slow lately

I am not here often now, but I'm here for him. Im not sure why because I hwve him outside this place.

I came here to find an answer to a question

I joined to find out more about myself

I stay cuz I've met some really great people here.

I'm here cuz I learn some things about the world.

And cuz some of the people are just really great. :)

It’s part addiction, part nowhere better else to be, and partly because I’ve met some cool people here.

I'm sort of new here, well, compared to this other website I've been on, I'd say, SW is pretty good, at least it has equality, like, when you post something, it's on the homepage! Even on top! And, people here seem much nicer.
I mean, come on, look on the bright side.

I don’t hate being here, or I wouldn’t be. There are several posters here of whom I‘m very fond. As long as even some of them are here and I get to talk with them or read their posts, I’ll keep logging in.

I am here because I have been busy with RL and now I am taking a break.

Each of us is here for a reason. Some for a season. Some just to make a splash. Others to dine and to dash. I am here to see my friends. To spend time with them. I love them. And to help some people here who need me. This site exists for numerous reasons. For all the complaints, it is worthwhile.

We are rejects from One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest

Great Question -

Like any relationship, it's about expectations...

if you come here for a laugh, you'll find it
if you come here for a fight, you'll find it
if you come here for support, you'll find it

Every now and then you get trolled or disagree totally...oh well...

I don’t know why I’m here exactly but I think it’s more habit than anything. I don’t expect anything from anybody or from the site but it’s always here and something to come to when I want something mindless to do.

I took a break from SW for more than a year. Mainly because it became too draining and time consuming, but I came back because I missed certain people and because I like how you can talk about literally anything on here. The conversations are more deep and honest than I have with most people in real life. People irl won't talk about their problems so openly. Very few would even tell close friends here in Belgium. We all live inside our own head, SW changes that for me :-))

To both help and be helped! It is totally anonymous, so I can let my inner feelings out.

Because here is slightly better than crushing lonliness

I`m quite happy here and always have been. 😊

Some great folks here whose contributions and activity on the site result in the positives outweighing the negatives by far IMO.

I'm sure you are one of those great folks @Niloo even though I don't know you well, but do know another, for whom I have the utmost admiration and respect, who does know you.

The best to you.

I actually love the place, if I moaned about hating it I'd leave and not come back. I like what I like and ignore the awful stuff!

Because we're addicted. Even people who leave end up coming back. They can't stay away. It's a compulsion. You have to be here. And that means taking the bad as well as the good.

It's our drug, slowly killing us but we cant live without

I come here mostly for the questions for something fun to do when I have the time. But making friends is a nice little bonus if they stick around and don't disappear on you.

I have no clue why I’m here

I, for the most part, enjoy my time on SW. I have encountered some really great and super-nice people on here.

It's a love/hate thing 😁

To find my soulmate

I come here just for the dick pics

For the few friends I've made, for sometimes being able to help someone, for the ability to vent about things I don't dare share with many outside of here for fear of being committed or worse. I've only let one person get closer than friend and it was a disaster, sadly.

For me, this place is a place of release, of getting things out sometimes and maybe being helpful if even just a little bit. As for those that I don't see eye to eye? I just don't engage them or try not to if possible.

I don't hate being here, I just don't come here every single day and therefore, don't get drawn in as much or connect too closely.

It becomes an addiction. My account was inactive for 8 months and I still ended up coming back. Part of the reason for me is that I don't socialize much. I have little opportunity to talk to other people so doing so online is a way for that to happen. Even though I'm still here, I post differently than I used to. I don't discuss politics or get involved in petty arguments anymore, I don't post for days at a time (rather I show up once a week or so)...a part of me does not like being addicted to something, but I also think it can be managed.