Feeling paranoid today, but should I?

Went to pick up some meds for me and Pantera (my cat, not the band) and the guy behind the counter asked me, as usual "so, you haven't changed your name yet?" then smiles mischievously.

He's the only one of the employees who asks me that, and he doesn't ask anyone else I know (I've asked around)

Does he know I'm trans? If so, how does he know? I'm not out officially yet. Only a select few knows irl.
I've no idea who he is besides his first name and where he works, and as far as I can tell we have no mutual friends.

Only logical explanation I can think of atm is he was there when I had the psychotic episode in a bar december 2024.
I might have been more open about being trans that night, but I honestly don't remember.

The episode in short version:
I went out drinking with a friend. After sending her home cause she was too drunk I don't remember anything before waking up in the psych ward.

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WillaKissing · 56-60, M

I am sorry about the Bar episode you had, truly I am and why I won't drink when I go out.

About that guy at the store, I believe he knows nothing about your episode at the bar nor you being trans. I think he is purely interested in you and is flirting with you, especially given the mischievous smile... That would be a good flirt tack tick I would employ. The meaning he is coming off with is "Oh, you have not changed your last name yet", as in you have not gotten married yet in the old world tradition of taking the guys last name, asking you this is a round about way of fishing for are you engaged or dating. Nothing about you being secretly trans. The guy is into you and likes your look.

This would be my take on this.

TheRealBarbossa · 36-40, T

@WillaKissing interresting take, but I doubt it. I'm not the kind of person someone (sober) flirts with

WillaKissing · 56-60, M

@TheRealBarbossa And so you say! How would you know unless you asked him, because every body has their own idea of the perfect person to like and crush on that is not shared with world like a slogan on a T-shirt. How do you know what someone thinks unless you ask them, right.

TheRealBarbossa · 36-40, T

@WillaKissing as someone with a unique taste in men myself, I should know better than to brush it off as nonsense, I guess 🙈

greensnacks · F

That's no one's business. They shouldn't be asking you that in the first place. It's intrusive.

On another note , try to not be paranoid a both what one person thinks. If he asks you again I'd report to HR for harassment.

TheRealBarbossa · 36-40, T

@greensnacks It just bothers me that I don't know why he keeps asking. The action itself is harmless, and being a health care worker he's not allowed to share any of my info, so reporting him seems a bit harsh.

Maybe I should just bite the proverbial bullet and ask him next time.

NerdyPotato ·

It certainly sounds like he knows. Other than being in that bar, he may be on SW 🤔

TheRealBarbossa · 36-40, T

@NerdyPotato I haven't seen any norwegians on here that match him, but I guess I'll never know.

I wanna ask him directly why he asks, but honestly, I don't wanna be reminded of that night. Or get any more detail.

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