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I demand respect!

Most often the ones who say something like this title are the most disrespectful ones with one-sided relationships. All praise go toward that individual. Having standards and lines you won't let someone else cross is fine and good. It prevents the other person from disrespecting you. That's needed in a healthy relationship. But some seem to forget to return the same. Always on the look out for disrespect against themselves, actual or perceived.

Now to take this and reflect it as a mirror. Having grown as a person and gotten better, am I possibly misstepping upon myself? Is it possible I'm looking at others' behavior and not checking myself? We all have to continue to be aware of our own actions. It can be easy to overlook how we impact the world and people around us.

If you have any insights or things to say, comment below. 👇

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FoxyQueen · 51-55, F Best Comment

So, one always has to remember this about boundaries:

Boundaries are not there for other people to respect for you. They are there for you to respect yourself. For you to know when you need to leave the situation.

In this world, we can only control one thing: ourselves.

This means, if we aren't being respected the way we feel we should be, we have the obligation to move on, or accept the behavior, not expect others to change for you. You have to be accountable for your standards, no one else.

froggtongue · M

@FoxyQueen great point.

LadyGrace

I think your post sounded a little harsh. That is, your title, "I demand respect!" Haha. I think it's kind of hard to get in a mode of respect that is demanded that way, but I get your point. One can ask for respect without being so demanding, however.

I believe if a person wants respect, they should show respect. It works both ways. However, it's very easy sometimes for people to make a bad judgment about another person and accuse them without warrant simply because they misinterpreted either what was said or the motive. The problem is we can't hear what people are saying and how it is said, nor the tone of their speech, so it can be easily misconstrued. But when we go speaking on a certain subject, could be anything, just because we don't agree with it, some who say others are being disrespectful, become disrespectful themselves as they're not understanding what was said on a certain subject, so I think we have to be very careful of being critical and judgemental, when we may actually not understand even what the subject is or have any knowledge of it to begin with. We may not have all the facts and therefore may be wrong on the subject ourselves, unaware. See what I mean?

froggtongue · M

@LadyGrace I realize now the confusion as to the intent of my post. From the perspective of others it seems like it occurred out of the vacuum. I was meaning it to be about a certain someone else who wasn't doing the same thing that person was demanding of others.
You have many good points here. It's also why later in my post I try to reflect it back on myself. As a growing human being I want to continue to grow and become better. Your response is giving me something to again consider as I move forward in life.

LadyGrace

@froggtongue I try to keep myself in check as well. We all have to do self-assessments at time.

PHlover19701 · 56-60, M

I have always lived that respect is not demanded or really even given....it's earned. I try to earn it. Do I always succeed? No. Then you learn humility.

LadyGrace

@PHlover19701 Yes, but like froggtongue said... you start off with a basic level of respect to begin with. That's what we learned growing up. Respect people. Unless they show you differently what they're about. Some people don't know how to be respectful to others and that's just basic common sense and courtesy.

PHlover19701 · 56-60, M

@LadyGrace Correct. Thats what i meant by "...or really even given'....there is a modicum of respect given initially....but to maintain it and be given true respect, they must earn it.

smiler2012 · 61-69

'@froggtongue] 🤔in a sense i do agree people should show respect to a small degree.but also respect is earned and not a god given right because of who you are and the position you hold

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smiler2012 · 61-69

@froggtongue fair enough i get what you say and it does ring true

smiler2012 · 61-69

@nedkelly 🤔you might change your tune when you have mrs smiler sat on your face and you cannot breath and are asking for mercy lol 😆

nedkelly · 61-69, M

@froggtongue It is old fashion banter between Smiler, Nimbus and myself

Ximenajacoba · 26-30, F

Sounds judgemental

froggtongue · M

@Ximenajacoba i think we all have to look in ourselves and be aware if we're doing something like this.

LadyGrace

@froggtongue I think you're right. That is fair and smart thinking.

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Greyjedi · M

Your first paragraph is really confusing.

froggtongue · M

@Greyjedi not surprising you say that. I realize the way I structure my words might not allow for an easy read.

froggtongue · M

@Greyjedi I will add for clarification that there was someone who was requesting others do something that she herself wasn't doing for others which prompted me making this post.

Greyjedi · M

@froggtongue that being ‘I demand respect’ ?

Greyjedi · M

Is your name lord Freazer?

froggtongue · M

@Greyjedi Um, I don't think so. 🤔 I can't say I even know who that is.

Greyjedi · M

@froggtongue oh, too bad!

On a more serious note, in my experience people have lots of random factors that determine whether they are going to give another person respect. That’s how it seems to me; things like a person’s fitness, the sound of their voice, their socio economic status, the color of their hair/skin/ eyes. The sad thing is toxic methods of evaluating a person’s worth do exist and demanding respect only seems to make such toxic people generally value you less.

swirlie · 31-35

Anytime we say anything to another person about themselves, we are always projecting onto them what we feel about ourselves, not what we feel about them!

That other person only becomes our inner mirror, the reflection of our self-image which we either scold or we praise when we see them.

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