If you work hard and succeed, you should not feel guilty about it. You have earned it. But, remember, with success comes responsibility.
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helenS · 36-40, F
The "Impostor syndrome", also known as impostor phenomenon or [b]impostorism[/b], is a psychological occurrence in which people doubt their skills, talents, or accomplishments and have a [i]persistent internalized fear of being exposed as frauds[/i]. Despite external evidence of their competence, those experiencing this phenomenon do not believe they deserve their success or luck. 😐
(source: wikipedia)
(source: wikipedia)
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CestManan · 46-50, F
@helenS [quote]Despite external evidence of their competence, those experiencing this phenomenon do not believe they deserve their success or luck.[/quote]
I think because when we were all young and expressed any sort of ambition, the world would tell us "why don't you do this or that instead?" or how we would never make it because we were not smart enough, didn't have experience, things evolved too fast so anything we learned would be obsolete by tomorrow, etc. Maybe we didn't know what to say to counter those doubts others had about us.
That was my experience. I am not successful today but I learned to play "ignorant" when people ask advice. I figure if the world doubted me when I was younger and begging for a chance, why should I pretend to know anything when someone needs my advice?
@Slade [quote] I had a little bit of that. I always knew there was 100 guys who'd take my job in a second if I wasn't there. Sometimes I'd think "why are they still calling me?"[/quote]
If you are one of those who even bothers to show up to your job, you are doing better than many. Maybe the more qualified ones had other problems that you didn't. A lot of jobs are doing good just to get people to show up.
I think because when we were all young and expressed any sort of ambition, the world would tell us "why don't you do this or that instead?" or how we would never make it because we were not smart enough, didn't have experience, things evolved too fast so anything we learned would be obsolete by tomorrow, etc. Maybe we didn't know what to say to counter those doubts others had about us.
That was my experience. I am not successful today but I learned to play "ignorant" when people ask advice. I figure if the world doubted me when I was younger and begging for a chance, why should I pretend to know anything when someone needs my advice?
@Slade [quote] I had a little bit of that. I always knew there was 100 guys who'd take my job in a second if I wasn't there. Sometimes I'd think "why are they still calling me?"[/quote]
If you are one of those who even bothers to show up to your job, you are doing better than many. Maybe the more qualified ones had other problems that you didn't. A lot of jobs are doing good just to get people to show up.
CestManan · 46-50, F
@hunkalove It is true that if you have nothing, you have nothing to lose.
@Alababy Thing is that the more money someone has, the more options they have in life.
Character? Well if someone has good looks and/or enough money, the world tends to forgive their other faults.
It is easy to think, "I do not have money but I am successful in other ways" until the real world speaks up.
@Alababy Thing is that the more money someone has, the more options they have in life.
Character? Well if someone has good looks and/or enough money, the world tends to forgive their other faults.
It is easy to think, "I do not have money but I am successful in other ways" until the real world speaks up.
PrestonJ · 36-40
I agree, give away your knowledge to those who are willing to receive it. I’ve known people who seemed successful on the outside but they were hoarding all the responsibility at work, not allowing others to shine and eventually they couldn’t take anymore and left the place disabled because nobody knew how to do a lot of the work.
But yeah, if you’re contributing in a way that makes something better and you are compensated for it you should feel great about it. Others will be jealous no matter what, those that don’t turn that jealousy into action to better themselves don’t matter because they will only try and bring you down instead of raise themselves up.
But yeah, if you’re contributing in a way that makes something better and you are compensated for it you should feel great about it. Others will be jealous no matter what, those that don’t turn that jealousy into action to better themselves don’t matter because they will only try and bring you down instead of raise themselves up.
Adogslife · 61-69, M
It’s not “just” money. Excellent credit does wonders too to make your life easier.
Never be late with your payments. If possible, pay cash. Never get overextended.
Never apply for a store credit card to save ANY amount on your purchase. It shouldn’t even be legal to make such offers.
Never be late with your payments. If possible, pay cash. Never get overextended.
Never apply for a store credit card to save ANY amount on your purchase. It shouldn’t even be legal to make such offers.
SunshineGirl · 36-40, F
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EdVoyer · 61-69, M
Thank you for sharing. Wise and necessary 🙂
wudifu · 46-50, M
I havent reached that point yet
MonaReeves86 · 36-40, F