QueenofZaun · 26-30, F
djjohnson · 41-45, M
I gave so much of myself at the beginning of our marriage because my wife's happiness is important to me. That is still true but now when she isn't happy I don't blame myself as much as I did before. I have always believed that my wife wants me to be happy as well. But what I came to learn was that yes she wants me to be happy but she doesn't want to have to do anything specific to make me happy. She wants me to be happy with whatever she is doing. That was when I realized she and I see happiness and love differently, and I have to accept that difference as ok. Not great, but ok.
Adogslife · 61-69, M
Happiness isn’t a myth. It just depends where you are on the wave. Think of it like sailing. Sometimes you have to head in a different direction to catch your wind.
What I’ll guarantee is that happiness is hard enough to find without someone bringing you down. It’s best to extricate yourself from bad relationships. They only hold you down. They only block your wind.
What I’ll guarantee is that happiness is hard enough to find without someone bringing you down. It’s best to extricate yourself from bad relationships. They only hold you down. They only block your wind.
Tminus6453 · M
It is a myth as you described.....I figured out at around 50y/o and plenty of relationships that happiness can only be found within, relying on someone else to fullfill your happiness is almost always going to fail... sure it might work for some people but thers always exceptions to the rule
Adogslife · 61-69, M
@Tminus6453 It’s definitely from within. I agree.
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
My heart goes out to you. Have you split?
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samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
@3timesalady are you still together?
3timesalady · 51-55, F
@samueltyler2 Under the same roof, but living seperate lives
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
@3timesalady i feel so bad for you. Are children involved?
Fertilization · 36-40, F
Thrust · 56-60, M
Please do a spellcheck on the title 😱
Not trying to bust ya. 🤷🏻 😊
Not trying to bust ya. 🤷🏻 😊
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3timesalady · 51-55, F
@jshm2
Naïve? Pretentious? If that’s what you see when someone shares their pain, then maybe the problem isn’t with me, but with your own lack of compassion. It must be nice to sit on the sidelines of someone else’s life and pretend you’d have done everything perfectly. Easy to point out “red flags” when you’re not the one living behind closed doors, holding on to hope, and trying to survive what felt unbearable at times.
And yes, there are always three sides to every story, but at least I’ve had the courage to speak mine. Laughing at someone’s scars doesn’t make you smarter or stronger, it only reveals how shallow your empathy really is.
So if reducing another person’s lived reality to a punchline is the best you can do, then thank you for showing us exactly the kind of person I never want to become.🌹
Naïve? Pretentious? If that’s what you see when someone shares their pain, then maybe the problem isn’t with me, but with your own lack of compassion. It must be nice to sit on the sidelines of someone else’s life and pretend you’d have done everything perfectly. Easy to point out “red flags” when you’re not the one living behind closed doors, holding on to hope, and trying to survive what felt unbearable at times.
And yes, there are always three sides to every story, but at least I’ve had the courage to speak mine. Laughing at someone’s scars doesn’t make you smarter or stronger, it only reveals how shallow your empathy really is.
So if reducing another person’s lived reality to a punchline is the best you can do, then thank you for showing us exactly the kind of person I never want to become.🌹
OogieBoogie · F
@jshm2 Thats a bit of the old pot calling the kettle black isnt it ?
Just like - you cant, after all this time, see how bad mannered and ignorant the bluntness of your opinions are.
Or how little facts you know about human relationshipal dynamics.
You accuse someone else of being naive and pretentious.... when you evidently suffer from the same condition.
You cant see your own naivete withinin yourself.
When someones in love a long time - its hard to see their 'other' for who they've become, over the person they first fell in love with.
- Love is difficult to write over.
- Its hard to retrain a hearts commitment.
- and its hard to walk away from something youve put all your heart into for so long.
Criticizing someone's personal intimate revelation only does damage.
She is finding out the fantasy that society shoves down every little girls throat from day one, (with dolls, play houses, domestic themed toys and Disney princess ideals).... isn't the magical promose society trained her to think it was.
That's inner growth.
Tell me again how long youve been bluntly hurtful and chastising for ?
Maybe deal with your own pain some other way, other than jumping on vulnerable victims and making them hurt even more....yeah ?
You can be so deep, so thoughtful....but then i see this type of thing from you.
I wish you would be your better self.
Just like - you cant, after all this time, see how bad mannered and ignorant the bluntness of your opinions are.
Or how little facts you know about human relationshipal dynamics.
You accuse someone else of being naive and pretentious.... when you evidently suffer from the same condition.
You cant see your own naivete withinin yourself.
When someones in love a long time - its hard to see their 'other' for who they've become, over the person they first fell in love with.
- Love is difficult to write over.
- Its hard to retrain a hearts commitment.
- and its hard to walk away from something youve put all your heart into for so long.
Criticizing someone's personal intimate revelation only does damage.
She is finding out the fantasy that society shoves down every little girls throat from day one, (with dolls, play houses, domestic themed toys and Disney princess ideals).... isn't the magical promose society trained her to think it was.
That's inner growth.
Tell me again how long youve been bluntly hurtful and chastising for ?
Maybe deal with your own pain some other way, other than jumping on vulnerable victims and making them hurt even more....yeah ?
You can be so deep, so thoughtful....but then i see this type of thing from you.
I wish you would be your better self.
OogieBoogie · F
@3timesalady 💪
Mk8155 · M
If mom is not happy, no one is
YoMomma ·
It’s not a myth it’s a sentiment of appreciation
Donotfolowme · 51-55, F
NativePortlander1970 · 51-55
@Donotfolowme Happiness is what we make it to be.
RedBaron · M
But it’s no MYTH.
NativePortlander1970 · 51-55
I am so very sorry You are going through this, but You are much stronger for what we are, we ARE Generation X, we are the kids, we are the kids that had E.T., the Breakfast Club, Madonna, Boy George, WHAM, Depeche Mode, Opus, Calvin and Hobbes, Family Circus, For Beter or for Worse, Snoopy, Original Night Court, Full House, Balkie, Axel Foley, and the Muppets, drinking out of the garden hose, staying out until the street lights came on, Katrina and the Waves Walking On Sunshine, We Are The World :)