Ever feel like you have to buy people?

Even when you've bought people, they're not yours, and available for the next highest bidder.

I feel very badly for you, because I grew up in a family that had no idea how to express affection or bond with one another.

My mother was the most closed off. She was unable to kiss her kids, or hug them, and hated to be hugged by them or touched. (Her whole family was like that). BUT she sure knew how to buy presents. She would buy lots of presents when she felt particularly guilty, because she KNEW she sucked as a mother.

My father was an amazing man, who was a "great guy" to all his friends. I grew up watching him snatch the check whenever he went out to dinner with them. He was into the big gesture, and bought big ticket appliances for my grandfather...then ended up being resented by the rest of the family because they couldn't afford to show off like that.

My best advice to you, before you go on in life, is...don't teach that to your kids.

Instead, teach them to be loving. Teach them to be deeply interested in the other people in their lives, because that is the honey that will draw people to you without gifts.

Stop doing that - immediately.

Be yourself
Learn to be comfortable being you, doing what you like to do.

No, it's never been something I've had to worry about most people seem to accept me on my own merit. I always preferred paying my own way but not opposed to spending money on others. I once took a wealthy boyfriend to Sedona and paid for both ways.

Budwick was absolutely right.STOP trying to buy people's friendship-RIGHT AWAY.The old saying is true:if they're only hanging around you because they want something,they're NOT your freinds and they dont respect you,quite the opposite.

Never.

The possibility could be both from my experience. Not necessarily either or.

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Not anymore. I’ve come to understand that the worst that could happen—being alone—isn’t the worst thing there is.