Ever feel like you have to buy people?

There's probably a better way to describe this but I feel like I try to buy the company or affection of others
with gifts or actions in the hopes they'll accept me or stick around. I think it stems from the fact that I probably don't have much to offer on my own as a person or maybe it's just how I perceive myself. God, I really hope it's the latter. Regardless it clearly doesn't work which is why I should probably stop for the sake of my own resources and well being. Beyond that I really do like helping people. It's not that I want something in return, I just wish I didn't feel so invisible ? Regardless of where I am. Online, offline etc.

Just a random thought, I wanted to share and get off my chest 😁

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Grateful4you · M

No, it's never been something I've had to worry about most people seem to accept me on my own merit. I always preferred paying my own way but not opposed to spending money on others. I once took a wealthy boyfriend to Sedona and paid for both ways.

InferenceEngine · 31-35, M

@Grateful4you Any ideas on how to get people to accept one based off themselves? I feel like I'm trying harder than ever to be an interesting person and share about my life but ultimately people just don't care. Before that I would always ask questions but the other person would just give short answers and not really be invested or interested enough to even ask about my life to begin with.