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Is it healthy?

The cat who had kidney disease passed away on February 21st. I cried my eyes out.

Since then, I have been cleaning my office, and trying to make it look different so that I don’t feel like he’s just going to walk in and meow at me.

My office was his chosen room since we brought him inside in 2016. It was his favorite room in the house, and he was rarely anywhere else.

I have felt very sad since he’s been gone, and I miss that he used to insist on tucking me in at night. My other cat doesn’t do that.

Is it healthy that I quickly began making changes to the office, and went as far as telling my significant other to hide his bed while I was sleeping? We don’t know what we’re gonna do with it since it was fairly new, and the other cat hates pet beds.

I feel like, had I not started making changes in the office, I wouldn’t be able to cope with the loss. And it’s not like it’s my first rodeo with losing a pet…it’s just that every loss is different. This one for some reason hit me like a ton of bricks…possibly because it all happened so fast, and I expected to have him longer than we did.
GerOttman · 61-69, M
My dog passed almost 9 years ago. I still go out in the backyard to talk to him. I don't know if that's healthy either but it makes me feel better when I need to.
PoisonLace · 41-45, F
@GerOttman even when gone, they never stop being your best friend. I understand why you talk to him. He probably brought you lots of comfort in his time on this earth. I dread losing my dog…that’s certainly gonna break me. Hugs to you.
Starcrossed · 41-45, F
"Is it healthy that I quickly began making changes to the office, and went as far as telling my significant other to hide his bed while I was sleeping?"

We all deal with grief differently, and even grieve pet losses differently from each other.

We just suddenly lost our 6 month old kitten last week and this grief hit me so much harder than the last cat we said goodbye to after 14 years a couple summers ago.

I'm very sorry for your loss. I hope you find peace soon.

Perhaps donate the bed to a closeby shelter/rescue in his memory?
PoisonLace · 41-45, F
@Starcrossed that’s an idea, but we haven’t made a decision yet. And yes, you’re right that everyone grieves pets differently. Also, sorry for the loss of the kitten 😞
Benjago · 41-45, M
I'm sorry. Everyone grieves differently. I didn't read this and think it to be anything unhealthy. Hope those feelings will ease as time passes.
It has only been about a month. Grief has no deadline. You make changes for your health and peace of mind. When you are ready, get a new cat. Your other cat likes a friend. You have a lot of love. Losing him so fast shocked you. Be kind to yourself. Lots of pets need good homes. Polar bear hugggggggggsssss.
onewithshoes · 22-25, F
Some rearrange after the passing of a loved one, others turn a room into a memorial.
We all cope differently. ❤
JimboSaturn · 51-55, M
I agree with the other respondents, what is healthy is different for everyone.
i have to make changes immediate also, everyone is different
TheLordOfHell · 41-45
My Dolly keeps getting these UTIs, and I'm worried that it is going to turn into something more sinister. I'm so sorry about your kitty. I cannot imagine my life without Dolly

 
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