Did I do the right thing? My friend lives over 5 hours away, so when he needs a place to stay,...

He knows it’s the sentiment that counts. You did nothing wrong. It’s what people say! It’s just hard for him to feel happiness, under such sad circumstances. You’re there for him and that’s what counts.

Pretzel · 61-69, M

Well saying anything with happy in it is probably not good.

Maybe..."hey I know it's your birthday and I will buy you a drink in a couple of months"

smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F

It was still his birthday even if his dad had passed away

sree251 · 41-45, M

You were just reaching out to him to offer some comforting thoughts in a time of grief. Death of his father was a big deal regardless of the relationship.

Fluffybull · F

Better not to allude to the birthday in the circumstances.

LilMissAnonyMOUSE · F

Don't worry, I'm sure your friend didn't feel offended at all but appreciates your greeting him.

bijouxbroussard · F

I’ll bet he understood. You were acknowledging his birthday, as his friend. And were there for him during the loss of his parent, often the hardest experience in life.

SStarfish ·

... does he need to go back and see his dad?

Piper · 61-69, F

"So sorry your birthday can't be a happy one, my friend"...perhaps.

InOtterWords · F

Maybe something aling the lines of... i know youvarecsad but the day youbwrre born was probablybone ofvthe happiest days in your dad's life
And then a hug

Dino11 · M

You did good 👍