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Why do people think it's okay to tell you what they think you are doing wrong

So before the game started our oldest boy said he needed to go to the restroom. So I took him. He gets a little nervous around crowds so he was sucking him thumb. He also still carries his bady blanket.

We were walking back to our seats and this older lady says excuse me I understand that he is a special boy but you really should break him of those bad habits before he gets older. He's going to ruin his teeth.

I stop and look at her. Because he's standing next to me holding my hand I don't say what I really wanted to.

I simply said ok thanks for that, go Royals

Thankfully I don't think he heard her but it really pissed me off. Why stop me just to say something rude.
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You also know the flip side of life, so many have gone through what you are going through, and maybe they should keep their opinions to themselves, but sharing what worked for them is not judgmental or cruel. -Maybe- what was an honest question is not what to get worked upon about?

Children, no matter how you like, are always going to face obstacles and misunderstandings.
Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
@awildsheepschase I didn't get upset with her, I politely said thanks for that and go royals and we walked on. I could have said something very rude to her.

I came here to vent my frustration about a stranger stoping me as I'm walking with my son to point out that I'm doing something wrong by letting him do this. And honestly the way she said just because he's special. Like that was anything to do with it.

She didn't need to say anything to me
@Cigarguy101 No, she didn't need to say anything. I'm not trying to excuse her, I hope you know. And with re-reading, I know's he's a special boy is very poor of her, I'm sorry.
Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
@awildsheepschase thank you
I always ask if someone wants my input before I open my mouth about things. I personally wouldn't have said anything like that. I'd be the one to say cool blanket or something of the sort to uplift his spirits.
FoxyQueen · 51-55, F
I don't know why people think because you exist in public, they are free to express their opinions with no idea of your situation. I'm sorry you and your son had to deal with unwanted, rude advice. That's not okay
Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
@FoxyQueen thank you, I'm glad he didn't hear her. And I didn't let it ruin the evening either. We had a great time
Gibbon · 70-79, M
Some people are in everyone's else's life every day believe it or not. They can't help themselves. There has to a disorder term for it.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder is the closest I can think of.
Barefooter25 · 46-50, M
What people need to do is mind their own business. I guess she never read the Charlie Brown comic strips. His best friend Linus is always walking around with his blanket and sucking his thumb while sitting down. That nosy lady is like Linus' grandmother, who's always trying to force Linus to stop that. You did the right thing just telling her "thank you" and just walking away. People like her need to mind their own beezwaxs.
You showed admirable restraint.

It’s amazing the inappropriate things some people think they have the perfect right to say to a total stranger.

And they trust that they’re not going to lose any teeth.
Occasionally, that trust is misplaced…alas. 😉
YoMomma · 41-45
She thinks she is being helpful 🙄
It's part of parenting, starting with pregnancy. Everyone thinks that they know more than you or that they desperately need to give you their wisdom.

Like that rude gal here.
Heartlander · 80-89, M
It's easier to see what's being done wrong if you are not otherwise preoccupied doing it :)

But best to keep your mouth zipped unless you are the instructor or mentor :)
Jexie · 26-30, F
I sucked my thumb for a very long time till I was 6 or 7. Even tho it's better not to, it's normal. She's just being nosey
Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
@Jexie I get that and we are working on it with him. He's been though a lot this year. He got really sick and was in the hospital. We almost lost him. He'd get nervous while he was in the hospital and that turned into something he did to confront himself.
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Achelois · F

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FloorGenAdm · 51-55, M
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Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
@FloorGenAdm far from it but thank you

 
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