I Am a Quiet Person I get so tired of people asking “why are you so quiet?”. It’s as if being...

SW-User

This makes total sense. Parents, especially Asian parents, want the family to be seen as high regard, enjoyable, etc.

So when they have kids, they want to have them be as involved as they are. They don't understand how we feel some times and push us into these spots then get annoyed when we don't perform as they expected.

Anxiety and stuff wasn't such a big deal for them back then. So they probably are trying to do their best but lack the knowledge of how to do it comfortably.

There's nothing wrong with you and you have every right to get tired of being asked certain questions.

Zaxel · 26-30, M

my extended family looks down on me for being quiet. when i was younger, i was legitimately very quiet and they'd try to make me feel like theres something wrong with me. im better at speaking now but now my family understands what it means when im quiet around someone. i dont trust them and i dont want to invest my efforts in them

SethGreene531 · M

There's more of us than you know!!

Everyone's got a soapbox today, clambering to be heard.
The thoughtful, considered approach, is lost on those whose only motivation is noise. But they're the outlier's, not you.

While retreating altogether from anxiety can make it grow, don't be pushed to run before you can walk.
If it's chronic shyness, though, there's help too.

Do be well rounded in all social settings, but acknowledge your temperament as thoughtful and intuitive. When you do speak, you offer some of the most valuable contributions to a discussion.

And yes, you make perfect sense!

SW-User

It makes perfect sense and if you don't want to do thing out of your comfort zone I say all for it were ever you feel comfortable your family need to understand that. But I hope get the response your looking for

SW-User

Your post is understandable, as is your rationale.
A great deal of the time, I am in my own head.
I too have to redirect to engage in a conversation.

As a general rule no one gets bent out of shape with ,
Hello, and how are you?

There are no judgements here. If someone tries, then there is always the block button.

RopinTexan · 36-40, M

I can definitely relate! Some coworkers at my new job today told me "You know you can talk to us if you want, right?" What I really wanted to say was "Well yeah, if I wanted to I would, but I don't want. Now please let me work." But I held my tongue.

assemblingaknob · 31-35, F

I'm the same in real life but online I don't care.
But IRL i agree it makes conversations and group settings very uncomfortable for all parties involved, if they have a different personality than yourself. But there will be a few people who are the same as yourself and you guys would be able to vibe.

JRVanguard · 26-30, M

This!
A million times this!

TheGoodGuy · M

It makes total sense. Do you do that bcoz if you say something wrong you'll be beating yourself up about it afterwards?

bijouxbroussard · F

So relatable. 👍🏽