I Am a Quiet Person

I get so tired of people asking “why are you so quiet?”. It’s as if being quiet is a bad thing. It really gets on my nerves.

I get insecure a lot and sometimes worry that I don’t make any sense when I speak. So I stay quiet.

I give slow responses, because I observe and take in what is said. I choose my words very wisely, being careful not to say anything offensive or hurtful. And because of this, I miss out on a lot of fun conversations.

Everyone, especially my family, push me to talk and put me in the most uncomfortable situations. They force me to go to social gatherings in hopes I will talk. That just spikes my anxiety even more.

And while I’m writing this post, I’m worrying. Do I make sense, or am I just blabbering nonsensical stuff?

Funny thing is, sometimes when I create posts on here or other social media platforms, I ask someone. “Does this make sense?” Just to get an approval.

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SW-User

This makes total sense. Parents, especially Asian parents, want the family to be seen as high regard, enjoyable, etc.

So when they have kids, they want to have them be as involved as they are. They don't understand how we feel some times and push us into these spots then get annoyed when we don't perform as they expected.

Anxiety and stuff wasn't such a big deal for them back then. So they probably are trying to do their best but lack the knowledge of how to do it comfortably.

There's nothing wrong with you and you have every right to get tired of being asked certain questions.

Henal · 26-30, F

@SW-User they just have really high expectations of me. And especially hard when they compare me to my brother, because he’s so much more outgoing and social. It makes me even more insecure about it.

SW-User

@Henal I understand. Parents can be like that.

Funny thing is, I was the complete opposite. I was outgoing but my parents would trap me in the house and pretty much kept me occupied in school and after school activities.

I had no social life, even if I wanted one.

Henal · 26-30, F

@SW-User That really sucks 😕

SW-User

@Henal Yeah. I was so insecure during high school because when my friends asked to go out, it was an automatic excuse.

I can see where you are coming from though. Just keep being yourself. 🤗

Henal · 26-30, F

@SW-User haha thank you 🤗