I Am a Quiet Person

I get so tired of people asking “why are you so quiet?”. It’s as if being quiet is a bad thing. It really gets on my nerves.

I get insecure a lot and sometimes worry that I don’t make any sense when I speak. So I stay quiet.

I give slow responses, because I observe and take in what is said. I choose my words very wisely, being careful not to say anything offensive or hurtful. And because of this, I miss out on a lot of fun conversations.

Everyone, especially my family, push me to talk and put me in the most uncomfortable situations. They force me to go to social gatherings in hopes I will talk. That just spikes my anxiety even more.

And while I’m writing this post, I’m worrying. Do I make sense, or am I just blabbering nonsensical stuff?

Funny thing is, sometimes when I create posts on here or other social media platforms, I ask someone. “Does this make sense?” Just to get an approval.

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TheGoodGuy · M

It makes total sense. Do you do that bcoz if you say something wrong you'll be beating yourself up about it afterwards?

Henal · 26-30, F

@TheGoodGuy Yeah haha, I do. A lot actually. It’s like:
“why did I say that?”
“I sounded so stupid”
I feel like that a lot of the time on here as well. That’s why my interaction on here is limited.

TheGoodGuy · M

@Henal I understand. One way to overcome that, let's call it overthinking, is to be with people (physically) as much as possible, people who you love and trust, family, then that type of thinking is less likely to occur as you start living 'in the moment'.
But it may get worse before it gets better, then you'll start caring less and less about it, hopefully 🙂

Henal · 26-30, F

@TheGoodGuy I suppose so :)

TheGoodGuy · M

@Henal 🙂
Best way to start is by eating meals together, that way the food is more blessed and those blessings go into us. Literally just have to exchange a few words during the meal for this to happen 🙂