Which is more attractive?

Emotional intelligence. I’ve met several men who were so brilliant in that regard I barely noticed what they actually looked like.

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Somewhere down the line, you really need a baseline level of physical attractiveness. Like a lady don't need a pair of D cups and hourglass figure and perfect skin, but if I don't like looking at them, not a whole lot to be done about that.

That said... if they're decently pretty, high emotional intelligence will easily bump them up to S-tier even without any other strengths.

Emotionally intelligent

Emotional intelligence by far.

The men who compulsively jump from one woman's pic to the next on SW or elsewhere online give evidence of how fleeting the connection with physical appeal is.

I have known plenty of people with impressive academic careers. Some of them are very nice people and some are arrogant jerks. The academic career is impressive for academic reasons, but balancing that career with the rest of life is what becomes appealing about the person.

And that latter quality brings us back to emotional intelligence.

Emotionally intelligent. I’m not a stickler for “they need a great career etc” as long as they work. Looks GENUINELY aren’t important to me. It’s easy for me to find legitimately anyone physically attractive if I like who they are (bit of a Demi sexual) and emotional intelligence is just super attractive

initially looks
long term intelligence - the great academic career being optional

Attractive for what? Planning a life with or a careless Sunday morning fap?

Emotionally mature/intelligent plus physically appealing.

I’m going for emotionally intelligent

I'd have to say emotionally intelligent for me.

An emotionally intelligent person.

On first meeting you wouldn’t know much about them so it’s physically attractive but physically attractive also means, smiling, being polite and a sense of humour helps. Emotional intelligence is the second most important.

Physical appeal attracts me more than any other factor, but there has to be a lot between the ears for me to hang around. Academic career is a total nonfactor for me. Maybe I have been around too many Ph.D.s.

Of these 3; emotional IQ! Hands down! It is already well demonstrated that the most 'successful' individuals have very high emotional IQ! They can persuade anyone of anything!

I think in the short term physically appealing for a lasting relationship emotionally intelligent.
The academic career makes no difference.

Some one who I'm in sync with
In other words, we synergistically enhance each other's life experience

I'm glad some of these people are more sapiosexuals. That means I have a chance. 🫠

Emotionally intelligent person any day, second or phase of life

I think attitude is the most attractive or repelling quality.

Depends on your purpose and perspective.

Why not have all of the above in one person?

Emotional intelligence

She has a cute butt.

The whole package

probably the emotionally intelligent person because they can bamboozle you into their bed

Émotionally intelligent, definitely, for the long term.

Physically attractive is obviously more appealing at first other things follow

That’s a no brainer haha 😘

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