Ontheroad · M
Listening requires an open mind and being able to (and want to) get into someone else's shoes (being empathetic), so to speak. Too many of us half (at best) listen and when we do, we don't, not really.
Communicating our wants and needs is often difficult for any number of reasons. We fear the response, don't know how to be open/honest and fear it will reveal some weakness, or think "they" should know what you want or need. And, the list goes on and on.
You are spot-on though, communication would solve many, many of our individual and world problems.
Communicating our wants and needs is often difficult for any number of reasons. We fear the response, don't know how to be open/honest and fear it will reveal some weakness, or think "they" should know what you want or need. And, the list goes on and on.
You are spot-on though, communication would solve many, many of our individual and world problems.
So often I find it's a matter of pride, the destructive ego that prevents one from being honest with another. Regarding the unwillingness to listen, some are ill-equipped to handle any information more than the pleasantries. They just can't cope with dealing with another person's trials or tribulations, or even honest expressions of affection.
I completely agree with you that a lot of the world's issues could be resolved, or at least addressed, if more people had good or even basic communication skills.
I completely agree with you that a lot of the world's issues could be resolved, or at least addressed, if more people had good or even basic communication skills.
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
I would like to think of myself as a straight talker. But somehow no matter what I say. I am met with confusion. What's repeated back to me is either twisted or things I haven't even said.
Tell me how that works...
I read somewhere that
That's pretty sad because it means then that we're not really talking the time to really absorb what's being said.
How do we fix this?
Teach meditation in schools? Teach critical thinking?
Make sure there are lesson that generates kindness?
Tell me how that works...
I read somewhere that
most people listen to respond not to understand.
That's pretty sad because it means then that we're not really talking the time to really absorb what's being said.
How do we fix this?
Teach meditation in schools? Teach critical thinking?
Make sure there are lesson that generates kindness?
Anaisrim · 56-60, MNew
Sometimes speaking honestly can engender ridicule or worse destroy a relationship. So there's legitimate fear in opening oneself up and expressing an emotional or sexual need that's not socially acceptable. But if you do and your partner or friend accepts you, it's always a point of growth within the relationship.
AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F
scorpiolovedeep · 51-55, M
ABCDEF7 · M
It's not about communication skills, It's about hesitation,, lack of trust and ego, and the lack of empathy on other end.
whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
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whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
@FoxyQueen Yes. I agree with that. Women do tend to form into groups and establish a pecking order to get things done, instead of competing and chest beating..😷
whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
@FoxyQueen No. But I it as a consequence of those traits you mentioned. I think the idea of "The Village" arose from woment needing to communicate, negotiate and be supportive..If it were down to men they would be solo fishing or hunting..😷
HootyTheNightOwl · 41-45
@NerdyPotato Hahaha... that directness can sometimes be a curse, though...
@HootyTheNightOwl only in the presence of neurotypical people. We manage just fine among each other.
HootyTheNightOwl · 41-45
@NerdyPotato True... but the negotiation stage still feels weird for those of us who acquire their diagnosis later in life.