If you've come from a hard background, not shown love or regard for other people..

This is a tough question.

Some people you can see it clearly. They've been treated like crap by life and it made them cold. Some people are so sweet you'd never know what they've been through and overcome.

I have tried to stay sweet, but it's not working anymore. Things have piled up, people abandoned me when I needed them most. I think I have become cold. I don't socialize at all anymore. I try to block the world around me out because I'm too vulnerable to the petty shit. I have no support. Fighting cancer alone. I think about my future and wonder if I'll die young like my parents... Who will be there for my son? It's all a bit too much.

So I don't make an effort with people. I can't risk the pain. And people are SO easy to push away, it's even more sad. Not that I blame them. Nobody with a positive, happy life is going to want to be around me. Not because I can't smile and laugh, but because I'm struggling and having bad days. People don't want it. So I stand like stone. Alone.

“Fault” might not be the correct word, but we always have choices. No matter what has been done to you, you have a choice how you choose to treat others.

Just because love wasn’t present in your upbringing doesn’t mean you can’t be kind to others while you ultimately seek the love you yearn for and deserve.

Yes, the pain can be hard to deal with but you have to bring it inward and reflect on the cause, not push it outward toward others. I found reading about self actualization to be helpful. Therapy can be helpful too. Diet, exercise and sunshine are extremely helpful and have great short term rewards that yield long term successes as well.

It takes time, but you have to just put one foot in front of the other every day keeping your goals in mind. Eventually you’ll look back and see how much you’ve accomplished.

At some point, people need to take responsibility for their actions and for their healing. And it is tough because that harsh background does things to people. But one can only keep blaming their background for so long if they are not actively getting help and taking accountability.

Yes. It is. If you come from an abusive background you understand better than most the pain it can cause and you can turn your back on all you know and start afresh with an opposite outlook.😷

If everyone who came from such circumstances behaved anti-socially or criminally, the argument could be made, but many people overcome such humble beginnings.

Meaning coming from a difficult background can be a factor, but it’s not a given.

Ultimately, people still make choices.

Assuming you are mentally competent:

If you are an adult you are responsible for your own behaviour.

If you don't know right from wrong and you are an adult, you are responsible for not knowing the difference.

People build walls around themselves as a result of their experiences.
They develop behaviours and coping strategies to protect their own feelings from being exploited in the same way by anyone else.

People are individuals, either you can change and grow into a better person because of the negative experiences, or you have not got the understanding to do so.

It's so much more complicated than that

Maybe up to a certain point.

Your responsible for your actions

hmm let's put it this way. it's your responsibility, not your fault.