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@MarbleMarvel seriously though, you did what you did with the knowledge you had at the time, as long as you’ve learned from it and are doing better moving forward then that’s all anyone can really ask of themselves.
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@MarbleMarvel ohh, well…all you can do is ask them to have a open honest conversation with you.
I’m sorry you carry regret to do with your parents. ☹
I have a few things of regret I carry to do with my grandparents. 🫂
I’m sorry you carry regret to do with your parents. ☹
I have a few things of regret I carry to do with my grandparents. 🫂
Mamapolo2016 · F
I will say from my experience with AA that we cannot ask others to tell us crushing truths. Even if they do, we will be offended and hurt.
The muck-raking has to be done by me. That means I can finally see what I did, identify it, admit it to myself and the wounded I left in my wake, and start working on not doing it.
The muck-raking has to be done by me. That means I can finally see what I did, identify it, admit it to myself and the wounded I left in my wake, and start working on not doing it.
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Mamapolo2016 · F
@MarbleMarvel It’s not so much a guilt trip as it is a new voyage into honesty, with myself and others. Often it can’t be fixed.
Some will forgive easily, some will never forgive. That’s not my concern. My concern is to acknowledge their damage and listen to what they say. It’s not the time for excuses from me, and not the time to self-justify. It’s to take it on the chin, because I do deserve it. Shame and guilt hide in the shadows. Honesty lets in the light.
That’s how I see it, anyway.
Some will forgive easily, some will never forgive. That’s not my concern. My concern is to acknowledge their damage and listen to what they say. It’s not the time for excuses from me, and not the time to self-justify. It’s to take it on the chin, because I do deserve it. Shame and guilt hide in the shadows. Honesty lets in the light.
That’s how I see it, anyway.
GeistInTheMachine · 31-35, M
Go easy on yourself. We will all be held to account in the end, but by our own souls. We will all get what we deserve, but we exist here in this form in a limited context. You did the best with what you had. Focus on making things better now moving forward. Not on what you did or didn't do in the past. Learn from it. Don't let it be in vain. That is all you can do. 🤍
@GeistInTheMachine I'm really not happy with who I am right now.
GeistInTheMachine · 31-35, M
@MarbleMarvel At least you are self aware. Don't be too self critical. One of the problems in the world is that the best people are too caught up in self doubt, but the worst people are the most arrogant and sure of themselves. Guess which ones get their way? You are valuable because you see the the potential in others. That means that you yourself have untapped potential that you can and will unleash when you are ready to embrace yourself again.
@being I seem to understand pain more than anything.
Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
I can give you part of that. I'm so glad to see you've already come to the proper conclusion that it's something you have to be the one to do. So here's how I can help, by telling you that you've wronged me. Your work will be recalling how.
smiler2012 · 61-69
@MarbleMarvel 🤔why are you baring your soul in this fashion 🤷♂at the end of the day nobody can honestly say they are perfect we all make mistakes too err is too be human
@smiler2012 it's for me, not for anyone else
