If I could, I would stand up in front of everyone and let them tell me what I was accountable for.

I want all the truths of my wrongdoings. I want it all in my face. Because I want to be held accountable. I want it to break me in a way that I use it as fuel for change. But still that seems selfish and way too much to ask. Too easy.

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Mamapolo2016 · F

I will say from my experience with AA that we cannot ask others to tell us crushing truths. Even if they do, we will be offended and hurt.

The muck-raking has to be done by me. That means I can finally see what I did, identify it, admit it to myself and the wounded I left in my wake, and start working on not doing it.

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Mamapolo2016 · F

@MarbleMarvel It’s not so much a guilt trip as it is a new voyage into honesty, with myself and others. Often it can’t be fixed.

Some will forgive easily, some will never forgive. That’s not my concern. My concern is to acknowledge their damage and listen to what they say. It’s not the time for excuses from me, and not the time to self-justify. It’s to take it on the chin, because I do deserve it. Shame and guilt hide in the shadows. Honesty lets in the light.

That’s how I see it, anyway.