Am I really such a pedophile?

I accidentally called 1 girl hot, who was 16, which is legal age over here anyway. I mostly said it so she didnt feel bad about my previous comment that she should wear baggier clothes so not to sexualize herself, which I think was probably the wrong thing to say and I admit that much. Truth be told, I barely glanced at her images. But now this certain user has caused me to lose friends and I can't help feeling there is an injustice here. I'm really not a pedophile and to call me one trivializes cases of real pedophilia.

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CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

🤦🏻‍♀ If she looks like an adult woman, which some 16 year old girls do, then you certainly aren't a pedophile. She would have to look like a 10 year old or something.

HijabaDabbaDoo · F

@CrazyMusicLover what kinda BS mentality is that. Your age is still your age regardless of what you look like. It's on the adult to conduct themselves appropriately with minors.

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

@HijabaDabbaDoo That is not mentality, that's a fact by definition. A paedophile is a person attracted to pre-pubescent children who look like children. This is ephebophile.

HijabaDabbaDoo · F

@CrazyMusicLover being pedantic over semantics is what someone equips when trying to justify attraction to a minor. It's a disturbing hill to die on and isn't making you look any better than your initial comment and yes it is a mentality because arguments like this breed a culture where people normalise exploitating those under age

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

@HijabaDabbaDoo There is a huge difference between a person who has a body of an adult and a child, ffs. It doesn't make it right but blaming a man who gets attracted to a person who looks like and adult and doesn't know it is in fact a minor is straight up BS.