Is it bad being too nice?

People keep telling me I'm too nice. I have my boundaries, sometimes people may walk all over me or not take me seriously but I still hold to my boundary, but is being too nice bad when it comes to relationships with people?

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Iwillwait · M

Gotta be prepared for endless pain and suffering. If that's tolerable, you'll be just fine.

Fifidog · 26-30, F

@Iwillwait What do you mean by that? How should I be or how could I change for the better?

Iwillwait · M

@Fifidog Kindness breeds kindness and also can be hurt frequently. That's the pain I am referring to.

Adstar · 56-60, M

Feel blessed that people who do not value a decent nice person have rejected you.. Thats one less twisted person you have to sift through to find someone who values being loved and cared for..

Toxic people will always see niceness as weakness.. let them go and find their toxic strong abuser if thats what they want..

WhateverWorks · 36-40

Based off what you wrote, the issue is likely that if you’re letting people walk all over you then you’re lacking boundaries.
When nice = self destructive, yes that’s a bad thing.

Fifidog · 26-30, F

@WhateverWorks what can I do differently?

WhateverWorks · 36-40

@Fifidog probably more work on learning more about what healthy boundaries look like and strategies to maintain those boundaries with people consistently.

cerealguy · 26-30, M

When it comes to relationships, get into a relationship with someone just like you

Someone very loving and caring and will share similar boundaries and will be very nice to you. You sound like a sweetheart, so MAKE SURE YOU GET A MAN WHO IS A SWEETHEART