What could make a spanking unbearable? [I Believe Spankings Should Hurt Beyond Bearable]

i was spanked once with the belt... that was so much worse then with the hairbrush

I use switch or cane on bare bottom, switch on bare legs.

Codrin, in your survey, no mention "others"
In that cathegory, I find the position important.
I have always made my children bend over - lately even touching toes - in order for the bottom to be presented as well as possible for the spanking, making it possible to give the most effective impact on the bottom.
You also mention parts of the body to punish.
I am sure most of use punish the bottom most, maybe followed by the thighs.
I don´t know any parents, who punish their children´s footsoles (thank God!) I have heard of a few who punishe the palms of the hands and some who punish the back.
Actually, I use the latter for my daughters, it is necessary to punish them while they have their period.

@Alfred, it has to be about 50-60 cm long (they can measure that by eye measure now!) thick enough not to break at the first 10 strokes, and flexible. They have to swush it through the air a couple of times to check its flexibility.

@Alfred, as they were younger and went across my lap, there was not much they could do to escape. Later, as they have to be over, they have soon become wise enough to not get up before their punishment is over!

@Alfred, we have lots of willow in our garden, and the switches from those have proved very effective, especially in spring and summer, when they are juicy and particularly whippy!

yes of course attitudes with culture to many things. I do believe parents should have choice and do as they see is needed. My boy is 13 he well knows our routine.

@Alfred, I don´t have to switch my children often anymore. My way of raising them seems to have helped:)

@Alfred, they only went across my lap until school age - 6 years here. I used a wooden ruler back then.

@Alfred, very easily - by making them realise that they only made it worse for themselves by not cooperating.

@Alfred, I do "better" than that! I make them cut and peal the switch themselves!

@zsuzsanna the willow is also a perfect source of perfect for spanking flexible twigs. I worked as a camp counselor and one of the other counselors would always pick a nice green willow branch to inspire the lazy hikers who tended to congregate at the back of the single file.

The ones he picked usually were fresh and thus very whippy and juicy. He would swish it around and try to make it seem so scary he would not have to use it for real. Officially the campers could not be touched, much less spanked! But, this guy was experienced and could stretch the rules just far enough that the kids were not sure if he was bluffing. A few swishes and maybe a really good swoosh stroke on a backpack or other inanimate object, and no one wanted to see if he would really land one for real. Also, it was summer so everyone had hiking shorts on and their legs were largely bare.

How often do yours call your bluff and end up feeling a willow switch?

@Zsuzsanna Quite impressive that they were able to stay in position from such a young age. How were they able to learn not to reach around? Or to stand up? I never learned that!

@Zsuzsanna: That would definitely get my attention "better!" What sort of instructions for choosing a proper switch do you provide?

@Alfred, my children never go across my lap for the switch or cane, but have to bend over. They know better than to bring inadequate switches!

Well the two spankings I got never hurt but the beatings I got did hurt a lot.

@Zsuszana1. Thanks for your note. Position is important for sure, expecially when the target is the bottom. The position you described make the buttocks to be well tensed so they absorbe very well the pain from the implement. Bastinado (beating inflicted on the soles od the feets are usual) un some Asian societies, while whipping the upper back was common in the naval companies and is still used in some religious comunities.
At school i was punished on the palms of the hands, 😒 never on the bottom. Punishments were administered with a wooden ruler or a switch. I did not get the strap (tawse), which is common in Scotland, i.e.
Congratulatiion for disciplining well your children. My mother belted me we when the nned was, and i am grateful to her for ahe sis it, because so she forced me to follow the right track, that is an educated and repsctful man.

YES @codrin, it hurt a LOT when I was younger, but as I grew older my feelings got conflicted with sexual arousal, and it was bitter sweet..

polyandrym66 Did it hurt unbearably?

polyandrym66 ;)

the cane is horrible

Being American, I have trouble thinking in anything smaller than kilometers! But 50-60cm would be about 19-25 inches. That sounds a bit long for over the lap. How do you position them? What if their switch is inadequate? I knew friends who brought in ridiculously thick ones.

@Zsuzsanna I never managed to acquire that wisdom. How did you encourage it?

@Zsuzsanna I am impressed with how well firm spanking works for you. What do/did use for over the lap spankings?

It all depends on the force of the strokes

My spankings were all Over The Knee, with my ass bared, and with the hand or belt..

I was spanked bare ass'ed over the knee bare handed. It worked well.

@Zsuzsanna1 👍

I only got it on my butt but with different things.. I've herd getting it other places. Back legs and a girl once told me on her breast.