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kdma1l OK! I have explained this elsewhere, but I love doing it, I love experiencing it, and I love helping others to experience it! I base what I am going to say on several older, noted tantra authorities and sources--Margot Ananad, an 80-somethign French woman who created Skydancing and tantra retreats and has written many books, Montak Chia, and older man from Asia who also writes, and others. To start, there are 7 keys to master--breath, sound, movement, including the entire body, slowing down, relaxing and staying present. I can explain each. I would add doing Kegel exercises daily (if you do not know what those are let me know and I will explain). Breath--practice deep, full in breaths through the nose, and slow outbreaths through the mouth with a loud "ahhh" sound. This will help you to move your sexual energy from your genitals through your entire body. As you breathe in, squeeze your PC muscles (the ones you would use to stop a stream of pee). Do this breathing about ten times several times a day, and do it right before and ruing masturbation or sex. Sound is the "ahhh" during out breaths--the vibrations help spread arousal and enhance it. Movement--do not lay still, but move your body, move your hands over your entire body, move your pelvis as if you were making love. Include your entire body in touch--arouse your skin all over, with gentle slow exploratory touches 9or do this with a partner! take turns). Slow down--do not be in a race to ejaculate (in fact, I practice semen retention and only ejaculate about every two weeks or so--make pleasure your goal and not ejaculating). Relax your body and your genitals--when we are about to orgasm/ejaculate (they are actually two separate things, which you can learn to separate--i can orgasm without ejaculating). And stay present--focus on your body and how it feels, how wonderful your lingam (Sanskrit for penis, meaning Wand of Light--the tantra term), and not anything else, not porn or expectations or mental chatter or anything. if you really slow down, use all these tools, deep slow full breathing, etc, your will find your lingam (cock) will become magically so sensitive and pleasurable, then use all the tools to move the energy through your body--as you breathe in imagine pulling your sexual energy and arousal up your spine to your head, and down your front on the out breath. Move your hands from your genitals up and all over your body. Move and make sound. Enjoy--I have self-pleasured for four hours doing this, experiencing an orgasmic state of bliss that is divine, spiritual and oh so pleasurable!!! I would even help guide you if you wished--it takes practice to master all this, but it is worth it, believe me!!!
