Neurologist and I aren't on the same page

So I really like our new neurologist. She's kind, she listens to me. She wants to start CBIT with me and my daughter and I'm ok with this. I've done some research on it and I think it might help me a lot. I mean it couldn't hurt. None of my past doctors have even suggested this for me to try. So we'll start next week after our vacation.

No here's my issue. We've been working with our daughter on learning skills to cope with changes. It's important for her to be able to handle them. We have a plan in place and I think it's working well. It's a slow process but she's handled all the changes well.

But again today she asked about being able to see my daughter at her worst moment. Very stressed and with our her sensory bag or air pods. I again very strongly told her no. I told her about the last time my daughter had a meltdown. How bad it was and how long it took her to recover physically and mentally from that. So basically I said there was no way in hell I'd let her get that upset on purpose.

She tried to argue her reasons for seeing her do this a few more times and finally moved on.

Am I wrong for not wanting to allow my daughter to get that upset on purpose. I just can't knowingly allow this to happen. Is she right, is this something she needs to see in person. Shouldn't my first hand experience and telling her the details be enough.

Like I said I like her, she's the first person that is willing to help me. Maybe she is a good fit for me but not my daughter.

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LadyGrace ·

I forgot to mention that when you think about it, no kid likes change. They always want their way. And if they keep getting their way, wait till they get to be a teenager and they will really be a problem to society because if they don't get their way they could change into being a big bully or even hurting people. They need to respect authority, including yourself. Where there's no boundaries, there's no progress and it can end in disaster. I've seen it before. They might throw a fit 50 times but sooner or later they'll see that throwing a fit gets them nowhere because there's no reward. Just sitting in a room quietly without being harmed, until they calm down. It might take 80 times but it should be done so they no they can't have their way every time they want it.

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@LadyGrace my daughter is a great did. She is polite, respects people and doesn't have fits because she's trying to get her way. Because of her needs she becomes so overwhelmed she has something pretty close to an panic attack. They don't happen very often. I'm not sure if you read my post about the last one she did have. I feel you wouldn't say that if she was an adult having a panic attack.